There actually are a lot of beautiful things about Christianity, but the one that usually gets cited is its teachings on forgiveness, and I think that's actually one of the cheapest and most screwed-up ones.
But a parent forgiving a child who accidentally breaks something of theirs while playing with it, and an adult child forgiving a parent for a lifetime of sexual abuse aren't the same, and shouldn't be.
The insistence on constant forgiveness, and the reduction of all of it to supposed equality seems DESIGNED to codify power relations.
The idea of heaven where there's equality is comforting to oppressed people, & the pressure to love & forgive everyone, turn the other cheek, allows inequality to remain on earth--no threat to the powerful.
But finding meaning in your suffering can very easily drain away the *anger* at it that usually pushes people to risk challenging the circumstances that create it.
My evangelical aunt used to make me go to Vacation Bible School when I went to stay with her for a week each summer, & even in the classes for very young kids, they taught that what we deserved was justice, but through Jesus we got mercy.
OT - NT
anger - forgiveness
justice - mercy
deserved suffering - grace
law - love
Implicit in there is the assumption that people should not be hurting from anything that's fixable.
Which is why it must be paired with power relations analysis.
Especially when it doesn't distinguish between intentional wrongdoing and accidental wrongdoing.
OBVIOUSLY any rational being says mercy
Framed like that, justice IS compassion. So, in many circumstances, is anger.
So that framing, for a lot of kids, is going to prompt:
WHY are kids like me going hungry?
But none of that matters until no one's starving.
It's only AFTER justice, when it is NOT expected or normalized, that forgiveness is grace.
"If my mom's going to hell, I'll go there with her."
"If God sends people to hell for getting angry when people are hurt, then hell is where good people go and God is the one who's wrong.")