The Girl Child A #thread
Your girl child wants to be a big girl. She wants to be free like her immoral friends. She wants to belong and embrace the vogue. She believes everybody is doing it.
Your girl child wants to be a big girl. She wants to be free like her immoral friends. She wants to belong and embrace the vogue. She believes everybody is doing it.
She will change or adjust her appearance to look acceptable even if she has to do something senseless. She begins to follow bad friends.
A lot has been said about rape and paedophilia. We have been reading the increasing rate of rapes and paedophilia across the world. We have read horrible stories of some so-called religious men of God having carnal knowledge of their members.
Most of these girls are not ashamed to tell the world how it happened. What of if it is the girl or lady that has tempted the man by her skimpy dress, or being in seclusion with him?
What of if it is the girl or lady that has been singing melodiously and dancing before his glare? What of if the lady has been demanding material things from him? What if the girls have agreed to be in secluded place or prayer with him?
The naivety or underrating the sexual weakness of a man when he is tempted is a serious issue we must look into. Otherwise, we will keep crying when the knife has cut the fingers of the child.
Those factors notwithstanding, they are not justification for a man to take advantage of a lady.
To nip this heinous crime in the bud, we must train our girls how to relate with male counterparts, be it a church pastor, Imam, Alfa, friend or teacher.
To nip this heinous crime in the bud, we must train our girls how to relate with male counterparts, be it a church pastor, Imam, Alfa, friend or teacher.
This principle must be entrenched as it will go a long way to prevent the increasing fornication, rape and paedophilia. A man by nature wants to have sex when he is tempted or aroused by any bodily part of a female.
So, when we block this or prevent our girls from being alone with them, we would have solved the problem to some extent.
The golden rule is: Do not be in seclusion with any man. There is no exception to the rule except her father or brother (if she does not suspect any indecent touch, if she does, she must avoid them too).
We must advocate the principle of don’t be alone with a man anywhere, be it in the mosque, church, class, home or lonely pace. This will save our girls from harassment.
Our girls must be taught all the antics of men who may want to take advantage of them.
Our girls must be taught all the antics of men who may want to take advantage of them.
Some will lure them with material things or gifts. Teach your daughter to learn how to politely reject such gifts. Not all men will do that to lure, but you don’t know who is who.
Some may show genuine concern in her affairs to win her confidence, you must teach her to know the red line. This a serious matter that cannot be left to chances. Be careful of also sending your girl child on errand to a male that may take advantage of her.
We are living in an era that morality has been cast into the dust bin. Parents do not teach or live by it; children do not learn it and have no restraints to avoid amorous affairs. I watched a scene of how an Indian man was dealt with by a group of women for rape.
They tied him up and beat hell out of him with their sticks. In some places, the rapists or paedophile will only be sent to prison.
Rapists deserve no mercy. They are antisocial human beings. They cause their victim an emotional trauma for life.
Rapists deserve no mercy. They are antisocial human beings. They cause their victim an emotional trauma for life.
Sparing them to still move around in the streets will make them repeat same. Their penalty should be capital punishment. They should be killed to serve as deterrents for others.
You do not need your wives, sisters or daughters raped before you know the gravity of this crime. It is one of the worst crimes on earth.
While dealing with rapists, we must also adopt preventive measures. Rape is an effect; the cause must also be looked into. In the past, it was not as common as we have it today. In almost a decade then, one may not get a rapist. It was the law and the people.
The law was harsh and the people were morally conscious. The films and movies people watch today are very amorous and violent. Several of them depict rape scenes. They are nothing but pornography.
Some men of social disorder after watching such movies can become desperate to enjoy sex with even a girl of three years! The government must censor such movies. The negative impact of movies and amoral music are character damaging.
We must in one voice condemn all that. The government should set standards for the kind of movies that the citizenry can have access to. It is a misnomer to believe that adult can watch some sex films while children cannot. The consequence is what we are seeing today.
The adults who have watched are now pouncing on the innocent girls like hungry lion. All sex films are in totality nothing but gratuitous depravity. It does not develop any moral in a Muslim or Christian who watches it.
Also, we cannot keep mute on the rate of nudity or indecent dressing. This, take it or leave, is another major temptation for men. There is nothing ladies cannot wear today.
The truth is that most of these dresses either cover nothing or at best make the tempting part of a female more pointing. It has become like a sachet of the so called-pure water everywhere. No sane man will deny the effect on his sensibilities.
So, when a man who lacks moral restraints is regularly exposed to seductive part of a woman, would that not tempt him to misbehave?
We have more to do in preventing rape, fornication and paedophilia than raising alarm when the misdeed has been done.
We have more to do in preventing rape, fornication and paedophilia than raising alarm when the misdeed has been done.
Nobody knows the next victim. Those who do not bring their case to the public are likely to be more. The shame and the social consequence may inhibit them. This means many of our girls who might have been victims are dying silently
There must be substantive massive action for the culture of ‘Dress well’. If men have lesser things to tempt them, it may reduce their attacks on our girls.
The argument that it is men that have problem with their hearts and cannot look away that should be blamed is weak and not practical.
It is a social issue that is like a sprayed perfume. It will be difficult to ask somebody not to perceive the fragrance while he is there.
It is a social issue that is like a sprayed perfume. It will be difficult to ask somebody not to perceive the fragrance while he is there.
Failure or the disintegration of the home is another area of attention. It is from the home that children are sent to the society. It is these children who become adult and misbehave at times.
All those rapists and paedophiles are some parents’ children and they might have even bore their own children too. What we witness with respect to all crimes in our society is a reflection of our homes.
Written by Dr. Zafaran Adeniyi @ZafaranAdeniyi
Written by Dr. Zafaran Adeniyi @ZafaranAdeniyi
@ZafaranAdeniyi @ibroayo @TawfeeqOlolade @yekinilaw1 @OmasoroO @ProfOlaiyaA @MSSNLagos @themuslimvibe @nigeriamuslim @Bruchagher @aboofaaris @BYousuph @account4power @Faruqish @AbuNadrohQowiyy @hauwasani27 @Bn_Usuf @_Oluwa_tobiloba @AlasinrinKazeem @Ahmed__Aliyu @IbrahimSagagi @bulamabukarti A home where your daughter sets out in a seductive dress and you expect her to return safe without becoming a prey to hungry voluptuous eyes of corrupt men!
A home where all sorts of movies are watched and you expect your boys to spare the young girls in the streets! His own sister may not even be safe if they are alone together!
So, we must teach moral values from our homes. Let our children be paragon of spirituality and morality. Teach them to respect every girl or woman. This they should do by not touching or talking to them indiscreetly. Teach them to eschew all immoralities.
Most parents today are far away from their homes. Their time is scarce for the God-given children. Hence, their home services are outsourced –the cook, the driver, the lesson teacher, the nurse, the counsellor, etc.
Our schools are becoming breeding grounds for immorality. Some teachers or lecturers are themselves spoilers. They lack moral value to teach our children. Some of them date these young girls against their will.
There could be a few of these girls who play along because of their immoral backgrounds. Most university premises today are more or less like prostitutes on rampage in terms of the kind of indecent dresses which pervade everywhere.
The paedophiles, who are they? It is one of the terrible consequences of a failed society and home. Those who should guide the laws are becoming lawbreakers. Men who should nurture the little girls are defiling them.
Beyond reasoning, what could have driven adults to forcefully or cunningly have carnal knowledge of the young girls? It is an oppression that is caused by a state of personality inferiority.
There are millions women of their age they can marry or criminally do the rubbish with, why are they targeting the young innocent girls?
Why will a man of forty be ‘sleeping’ with a girl of 4 – 5 years? It cannot surely be libido problem! We have men who have wives at home and still involve in such.
It cannot be insanity either; for if it is, we expect them to be discriminatory about it or go after mad women like themselves! But do the insane get arousal for sexual feeling?
It is a kind of easy prey, for a man to just see the little girl as cheap and easy to satisfy his animalistic propensity. The act beats rational imagination! What does the girl have that he wants to enjoy. What romance will he make with the poor girl?
The girl is not mature as to make him ‘penetrate’ her. He will only cause damage and pain for the innocent girl. His organ has no place to penetrate in the girl.
He will, be more or less, turn the girl to a masturbation machine. It is a high level of criminality that is worse than rape. In the case of rape, a mature adult whose sexual parts are active is involved in this case there is nothing!
The paedophile is not one single man. It can be an elder brother of your little girl. It can be a family friend living inside the house. It can be a visitor you leave for the while. It can be the neighbour beside your house or a tenant in the same compound.
It can be the lesson coach or teacher at school, it can be a pastor or Mallam you entrust her to. It can be a stranger from nowhere.
This ugly incident can happen anywhere you least think of. It can be at the market, farm, school, home, car, road, shop etc. This is for you to realise the society we dwell today.
Men are more culpable when it comes to paedophilia. Doing it with the girl child is very devastating as it affects her tender sexual organ. There are women who also take advantage of the little boys to satisfy their deviant sexual lust.
Some will fondle with his male organ by sucking it or romancing the little boy by kissing or pressing him over her nude body. Some little kids have sharp brains that they can never forget the incident.
It can develop their basal self to become promiscuous. This is an early wrong exposure which can incite early sexual experience or exploration in the child. His little sister at home or classmates may not be safe from his sexual advances.
