Where will he be cared for? How can companions ensure he has company when he wishes, time to rest, help to move around? Support for his dearest people? Help with laundry, shopping, meals?
Make a list of jobs.
Write rotas.
People want to help but don't know how.
Does he have a named person as his Health Attorney in case he can't speak for himself some days?
Takes a few days to get all the signatures & register the form: gov.uk/government/pub…
You can make this more formal using ADRT and DNACPR documents (see below).
Good guidance at @AGoodDeath website.
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Get a written plan of what to do if symptoms become troublesome: what to give him, who to call.
Have 'in case of need' meds in house.
If there are things you want to say, ask him if you may. Then say them.
Thank you.
I'm sorry.
I forgive you.
I wish...
I love you.
Give him private time with visitors for intimate conversations. We never know when these important conversations are necessary.
It's not normal to be stuck in any of those emotional states. If depression or anxiety are undermining enjoyment of living, ask GP/pall care team for help.
Tell people when you welcome visits & when to give him quiet time.
Have a front door Don't Disturb sign.
Ensure their schools know what is happening at home.
Good resources at @cbukhelp @winstonswish
Wishing you well for this sad, important time together.