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Chapter five is called New Beginnings and starts with a movie quote:

"Fortune smiles at some and laughs at others."

Yeah, we get it, you think your autistic kid is some kind of unfair punishment. Move on, #HellMother.
Hey, instead of telling couples who want to adopt to never give up on getting an infant, you could've, oh I dunno, reminded them that hundreds of perfectly wonderful kids in the system could really use a good home.

But of course that wouldn't be perfect enough.

#HellMother
"His head circumference, balanced features, dark hair and ruby lips are perfection."

Look, I get it #HellMother, at the time you were practically ODing on positive hormones, but there is still something icky about describing a baby this way.
Well, at least that chapter was mercifully short. But the glorifying of perfect infants is so very telling. People have unreasonable expectations about what children should be and #HellMother is no exception.
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I probably don't need to tell you that the next chapter, Still Life, starts with a pretentious quote.

#HellMother
I am not exactly thrill with #HellMother 's decision to reveal that Zack went through a phase of spreading his own feces all over himself and his bedroom. Remember, she has no real consent from him to tell any of this.

But considering they lock him in his room at night, a bit of
smeared feces to clean up seems less than they deserve.

Also, chill, #HellMother. At four *I* jumped through a glass table *in a store*. Feces? Not the worst thing you could've ended up dealing with.
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The next chapter, Positive Reinforcement, forces me to engage with one of #HellMother's quotes again.

"If punishment is the bad guy of ABA, who is often misunderstood...Then reinforcement is the hero of ABA, who is loved by all."
"Zack now comes willingly to the table to sit for drills, wholly compliant in line with our aspirations."

Wow. I don't even need to comment on that one. It speaks for itself.

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#HellMother "'Compensating behaviors' in ABA-speak refers to functioning which allows the child to stifle his autistic tendencies in favor of conventional behaviors. Expressive language, suppression of tics, cluing in to social cues, all allow the child to function enough to
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Chapter Ten (I think?) is called 40 Hours and I know I said I wasn't going to engage with #HellMother 's quotes anymore, but I kind of need to.

"Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal." - Albert Camus

I am infuriated by her use of such a
quote. Look, I never had ABA. I was diagnosed too late (at age nine) and was considered "high-functioning" (*shudder*). (#HellMother)

Yet one could make the argument that I went through a sort of ABA of society. In being called "high-functioning", I became convinced that this
meant I HAD to do better, to appear more "normal", to be able to make friends and look people in the eye and do all those other things. Surely, I thought, if I'm high-functioning this means I should expect more from myself. (#HellMother)

But I could not succeed. I was still too
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The one autism & parenting approach I want folks to absorb for 2019: if your #autistic child is violent or aggressive then that usually means something is really really wrong with them, health or environment-wise, and you really need to figure out what it is—for everyone’s sake.
It can be really, really hard to figure out the source of an autistic kid’s (or adult’s) extreme distress. But you know what makes it harder? People assuming aggression is "because of autism,” & not because something is wrong. And then so much avoidable suffering happens.
This is why you don’t want to listen to #autism “experts" who recommend “extinction,” punishments or aversives for kids who are aggressive, without even bothering to figure out why they might be in pain or other distress—because that is ignoring/punishing someone who needs help.
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#New Traders, Understand #Mathematics Of #Profit In Market Before You Put Hard #Earned Money On Risk.

Expectancy = Success Rate x Reward Risk Ratio

Lets Talk About Expectancy Of Short Term Directional Trading System.

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Things that YOU can do to help #autistic children in school. A thread of ideas, titbits of info, things to consider and so on. I hope it's useful and even more importantly, hope it helps some kids cope with the waking nightmare that is 'Neuro-typical Academy' #autismacceptance /1
1. Have your lesson stick to a rigid routine as far as possible. This is good as it arguably is good for all kids, but is a huge benefit to #autistic student. At primary, have a clear daily routine if possible. /1
2. Only have posters and displays if they are actually useful, and don't make them too 'busy'! Simple colour schemes too, rather than rainbows, and if may be worth seating #autistic children away from particularly distracting or detailed displays. /2
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#New PA cong. map increases D chance of winning the House majority by 4%. They only need a 6.8% generic ballot margin now (down from 7.7) to be favored.

Diff. will be closer to 10% in Nov when uncertainty from polls is ⬇️. Redraw is a very big deal.

One major reason the new PA map is such a big gain for Democrats is that it solidifies, not just tips, PA districts in Philly burbs. Also creates one additional vulnerable R district. (Easily seen in this map made by @JMilesColeman)
My forecasting model will have new PA map in the near future. This is not just a simple switch; it’s a coding redesign, restructuring of input, & drawing new geographic files. Takes a while (for me, a student).

In the meantime, just add 3-4% to the model: bit.ly/2018_house
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