Thread by @AyadeLeon

A random pro-choice thread for today:
Our society has no respect for women, mothers, the labor of parenting, children or young people. Their focus on fetuses is about the IDEA of humans but not actual humans. This will eventually circle back to connect with the #MarchForOurLives

Parenting is highly skilled labor. In traditional societies, people lived in multi-generational families+learned parenting skills from early on. But the nuclear family robs everyone of that training and we read books+listen to podcasts to learn what we could've known all along

The nuclear family is critical for patriarchy because having too many people around challenges father-knows-best. It's crucial to isolate the wife+kids w/ him so he can dominate them in isolation+the society can call it privacy. This is not in the best interest of moms or kids.

Or single moms end up being dominated by the sexist society as a whole+lose out on resources in a setup where the man is supposed to be primary breadwinner. Sometimes it's worst of both: denied material resources from the dad AND targeted with his attempts to dominate her+kid(s).

But parenting is skilled labor that is best learned via apprenticeship. It requires planning, huge amounts emotional labor, time to organize, network, strategize+de-brief. None of that is compensated or even ACKNOWLEDGED in this society. Women aresystematically exploited to do it

The difficulty of the work is systematically hidden+denied. New moms always look shellshocked: "no one told me." Only as a feminist since my teens had I been warned. And there's a difference between the abstract idea of exploited labor+actually living it. Year 1 my motto was WTF?

But parenting is skilled labor. Someone needs to raise the next gen of citizens of workers of leaders, etc. This is a job done on behlaf of the society. But the society resources+compensates parenting like a hobby (knitting anyone?)+frames it as an individual choice women make.

Parenting as individual choice is part of the patriarchal private property arrangement in the nuclear family. HIstorically men owned women in marriage+kids. Women didn't have a choice in the matter of these things. So our personal choice to have kids or not is actually a step up

Women buy in to the notion that parenting as personal choice+don't expect support. Meanwhile, patriarchy insists it's women's God given duty to be mothers because cis women's biology has reproductive capacity. God given duty doesn't inclue support, help, training, respite care.

Imagine if people with certain biology were told it was their God given duty to fly passeger planes. We see how absurd that would be:
"You had sex, now you need to fly this plane."
"Can I get a co-pilot?"
"You had your co-pilot when you opened your legs. Now You're on your own."

Our culture has more respect for airline customers than children. The work of parenting is just as specialized. Pro-lifers don't care about children. Their policies treat them like dirt including pre-natal care. So much for caring abt fetuses. And once they're born it gets worse.

What a surprise! Interrupted during my rant abt parenting b/c I had to feed my kid breakfast (while my man is laying in bed probably playing video games). Don't get me wrong, a brother works hard all week. But for parenting, I'm mostly on my own. Now, where was I? Right. Ranting.

So our society says "children are the future" but treats the future like shit from the moment they're born. Part of what's hard in our society: mothers are isolated, under-resourced+have to learn on the job. We don't let brain surgeons learn on the job w/o support. Why mothers?

Teachers must be credentialed. Therapists need to licensed. But mothers, who are both teachers AND therapists, don't deserve training, resources or support. And society thinks it's okay to raise kids in these conditions. B/c mothers have insider knowledge from cis female biology.

We r meant to mother because it's our God given role? +we opened our legs.
Picture that in other skilled labor. Day 1 at a therapist:
"What's yr training background?"
"Well, it's my God-given role+I opened my legs. So let's start w/ yr childhood, Don."
"Ok. My family was cold..."

So it all makes sense. It makes sense that the conservative forces in a society that claim pro-life but treat mothers+babies+families+children like dirt would be fine with teens being shot down in their own school. Or at the mall or on dates or in the street or anywhere.

It makes sense that the same patriarchal advocates in that society who mistreat women+families would not care when young people have to say about gun violence. And would really not care what young POC have been saying about gun violence for
DECADES now, esp police gun violence.

Young people's lives have never been important the misogynist agenda. Children, families, babies, fetuses+young people are just exploited to put a human face on their agenda of subjugating+exploiting women, even to their own detriment. Families+nations w/ liberated women thrive.

The sad part is none of this is actually in men's best interest. Rather in the interest of toxic masculinity+elite men who need puppeteer strings to control the masses of men. But young people are going to lead us all thru this mess. Thanks to the moms that raised them to fight.