Thread by @PaulMDomenick

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•Things I was told I’d never so & lessons learned

I grew up in Philadelphia. Big city, a lot of people, crime, noise & problems.

I lost my mother at a young age...

I lived in a house with four other family members & grew up poor.

I’m grateful I had a home & a father willing to do whatever was necessary to provide us with basic needs.

He did his best!

Throughout grade school, I was overweight & insecure. I was bullied for this.

This was the case in high school as well, and the weight issue continued into early college years.

On top of that, I was a poor student with bad habits.

I wasn’t overweight because I didn’t enjoy sports, because I did.

I simply had a very poor diet.

It’s energy in vs energy out.

Growing up, besides being bullied in school by the “cool” kids, I was also bullied by my own family.

I was bullied by the ones who are supposed to support you.

I was constantly told I’m a Fat F*ck, I’m lazy, ugly, stupid & a loser.

Boy were they wrong...

My fathers side of the family NEVER degraded me like that. I’m thankful.

I was fortunate enough to have a few friends, who I call my brothers, always have my back.

We talk everyday & I cherish them.

I explicitly remember an incident when my siblings held me down & forced me to wear a bra.

My older family members encouraged it.

I never did well with girls as a teen, or even early 20’s.

I was always thinking negatively about myself.

I would say “I’m too ugly”, “I’m stupid”, or “you’re a loser”

I was always worried about how I looked or if I was smart enough.

I never performed well in school, and because of this, my family would call me a lower & told me how I would always be an A*swhole.

“Pj, you’ll never amount to nothing!youll be a piece of sh*t!”

Today, I look back with a smirk on my face.

Things I was told I’d never be able to do:

-Lose weight / Become fit
-Get good grades
-Do well with women
-Get over my anxiety
-live the life I want
-Graduate

Well, here we are today, 5 years into my self development journey & living 60 Miles away from where I grew up..

There is only one thing I didn’t do yet on that list, and that is Graduate ( 1 year away)!

Here’s how it began...

After going through a terrible breakup about 5 years ago, with my first girlfriend, I became lost.

I was depressed, sad & confused.

We’re all of the bullies of my past right?

Maybe I’m a loser, I would tell myself.

They were wrong. I wasn’t .

Once the relationship was over, I began questioning my beliefs & who I was.

I came up with a plan.

I was going to get fit & maybe she will come back to me once she sees the new me.

( Never do this. Change for you)

Once I began working out, after pumping iron, a solid dirt & many frustrating, lonely cardio sessions, I did it.

I lost 100lbs.

This was one of the greatest moments of my life.

This is what conquering yourself looks like!

This is G Sh*T!

After getting all cut up like a bag of dope, my Ex decided she liked what she had seen.

Unfortunately for her, I was no longer interested & was already exploring options with her friends.

It wasn’t about revenge, it was about doing what I want!

I had ZERO interest in getting back with her. She broke my heart, but I was over it. This was my first epiphany.

Red Pill not swallowed yet...

One year later, I met a new girl. Hot little thing.

This lasted for Two years & was a very rocky experience.

But boy did I learn a lot about myself. Dealing with someone like that led me to my 2nd epiphany...

💥The Red Pill💥

I’m sure guys like @ConquerorVlad & @thegreatgatzb remember their first red pill moment.

After we broke up, I was once again questioning myself, my beliefs.

I decided to keep moving forward.

I started searching in the realm of self development for a good book to start with, since I embarked on a conquest searching for improvement.

Here it comes...

The amazon side bar suggested a book for me..

It was @RationalMale by Rollo tomassi.

This was the day my life changed.
This was the day my life was saved.

I devoured that book. I questioned it. I hated how I was feeling & thinking. My whole life was a lie.

My eyes opened..

How come none of the older men taught me this?

..Because they didn’t know themselves.

I became a new man after this book. I applied what I learned. I took action in all aspects of my life, not just with women.

I began doing things I’d never thought I’d be able to do..

Walk up to that hot group of girls?
...Say no more!

I started approaching random women during the day. Chatting them yo & getting digits. I felt like a GOD.

The old me could’ve never done this, but it didn’t matter any more.

That’s not who I am now. We are who we say we are!

I started tackling all of my fears.

I walked towards the fire of anxiety.
I challenged & faced it head on.

I dared it to F*ck with me!

It went away.

The shackles of my former self began breaking off of me.

I’m becoming free..

I moved to South Jersey & enrolled back into school.

I accomplished something in my first semester that I had never thought possible in my entire life.

I got perfect grades, all A’s.

How?
Because I opened the books & studied, over & over again. I fell asleep at my desk.

I found more people.

I found guys like @thecadclub. This guy started his business living in his car, behind a Denys. What did he have? WiFi.

Lesson: It’s about focusing on what you HAVE & leveraging (@ipb_media ) the tools you do have to place yourself in a better position.

I found people like @EdLatimore & @AJA_Cortes who inspired me to evolve into someone I previously thought wasn’t possible.

I am better because of them.

Here we are today.

I’ve started writing & engaging life.

I’m building my brand to help others who were like me.

I started working towards my business & building my social media presence. I started by buying a twitter course by @TJRicks_TSP .

Highly recommend people.

On top of all that, I’m grinding everyday & preparing for a 3rd successful semester at school in the fall!

I’ve become better, stronger, faster, wiser and more in tune with who I am.

I’ve become a completely new person. It is possible. You can too.

Was it hard to get here? Hard as F*ck

If you take any lessons away from this, start here:

-Focus in your purpose, not other people.
-Get the right people into your life (mentor, friend) & keep them.
-don’t be afraid to separate from the pack. Lead on your own.
-Face adversity, with(out) optimism.

This was a story of facing adversity in all aspects of your life, and showing that YOU too can overcome anything.

You can become better.

It’s time to evolve gentlemen.

These were the things I was told I’d never do, but did them anyway!

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Sometimes you have to face your demons & say what’s up to that MF!

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