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🧐 SHORT THREAD: Men & “non-emotions”
1: As I mentioned previously, the idea that men are non-emotional (not motivated by love or largely "incapable" of it) is a myth.
It's actually a lie.
See, Allah tells us that mawadda (love) is a means/goal of spousal companionship
1: As I mentioned previously, the idea that men are non-emotional (not motivated by love or largely "incapable" of it) is a myth.
It's actually a lie.
See, Allah tells us that mawadda (love) is a means/goal of spousal companionship
2: Since marriage in Islam is between man & woman, then man & woman must both be capable of mawadda.
Allah is Just & “does not burden a soul beyond its capacity”, therefore most men & women have capacity for mawadda.
🤔It would not add up to enjoin commitment a marital life..
Allah is Just & “does not burden a soul beyond its capacity”, therefore most men & women have capacity for mawadda.
🤔It would not add up to enjoin commitment a marital life..
3: ..of love & compassion if men (or women) are innately incapable of doing so.
Therefore when men talk about being unemotional or incapable of emotions in a marriage or as they search for a spouse, they are repeating a lie to themselves.
Therefore when men talk about being unemotional or incapable of emotions in a marriage or as they search for a spouse, they are repeating a lie to themselves.
4: If they truly think they have trouble feeling/expressing/responding appropriately to the emotions of a spouse then it is not that they are truly incapable but that they have been abused. They are tragic victims of societal & cultural abuse. And they will breed more victims..
5:..until the cycle is broken.
How to break the cycle? “If Allah wants/ordained mawadda between me & my spouse inorder to make my marriage happy, then I must fight the culture & society that prevents me from fulfilling Allah’s words."
How to break the cycle? “If Allah wants/ordained mawadda between me & my spouse inorder to make my marriage happy, then I must fight the culture & society that prevents me from fulfilling Allah’s words."
6: Men will have fightback against culture and society. And women should help them.
A few titbits: I have come across opinions citing a hadith that says women should marry a religious/morally sound man. Indeed thats most desirable but mutual love is still important.
A few titbits: I have come across opinions citing a hadith that says women should marry a religious/morally sound man. Indeed thats most desirable but mutual love is still important.
7: If it werent, then SAW would not have ended the marriage of a man of sound character/religion (infact there's a hadith in which SAW calls him "excellent") to a woman who complained that she had nothing against him except that could not stand him/ felt no love for him. 
8: Tidbit#2: There r several arabic words for “love” describing up to 14 degrees (healthy-unhealthy forms). "Wodd” (root of “mawadda”) is the best form of love between two people.
Point: there's a reason Allah chose to use the word “mawadda” to describe spousal companionship .
Point: there's a reason Allah chose to use the word “mawadda” to describe spousal companionship .
9: Titbit#3:There’s a reason Allah ends the mawadda verse (30:21) with “There truly are signs in this for those who reflect.“
🤔Our Wise Creator pre-empted us; He knew that someday even the need for sincere, free-flowing love between spouses could become a matter of contention
🤔Our Wise Creator pre-empted us; He knew that someday even the need for sincere, free-flowing love between spouses could become a matter of contention
