right now I find myself thinking– I think school, maybe civilization itself, disincentivizes the development of confident, independent men
I mean the quiet sort of confidence that comes from knowing your worth, taking ownership and responsibility for yourself, your actions and their consequences, etc
thinking now about how those things surely also scour the romantic/sexual landscape
there is a system – some call it the patriarchy, some call it the kyriarchy, I don't care abt the names
it is a system of control via cruelty & abuse, and I'm making the case here that SCHOOL is a part of this system
- take initiative
- make the first move
- be confident (ie not needy, not insecure)
- be smooth, charismatic
- know how to have a good time
if you have these skills (I'd like to think I do), life becomes easy
IMO, it doesn't. it atomizes us
realistically, what I'm really looking for + trying to do here is to just persuade a handful of dudes to make a bit more of an effort to look out for each other. to help younger dudes in turn with their fears and insecurities