1. Don't forgive missteps
2. Put mistakes on display for others to ridicule
3. Be the harshest comment
4. Be passive aggressive
5. Don't show good faith
6. Don't consider what brought a person to their beliefs
8. Don't care about their struggles if they're not related to yours
9. Dismiss their struggles as not real or valid if they're different from yours
10. Leave no room for new ideas
11. Punish differences of opinion
13. Show blind loyalty to/take sides with people who are demonstrating toxic or abusive behaviors
14. Isolate, bully, or criticize people as being "all bad" who disagree in one area
16. Refuse to admit mistakes
17. Be in competition instead of collaboration with other advocates
19. Blame someone for being a victim of internalized ableism instead of inspiring autistic pride
This is why we need to take stock and think about the big picture.
This is not a set of rules for all autistic people. These are suggestions for advocates who have chosen to assume a leadership role and need to be benevolent and think things through to cause minimal harm.
What are some of your best practices to be a safe and inclusive advocate for all autistics? #ActuallyAutistic