Thread by @gbenro

Good morning o, about to go play FIFA 20 with my Son but let's share a little before I go okay?

For the believer 2 of the most important decisions you have to make are:

1. Giving your life to Christ
2. Who you spend your life with (if you choose to)

If we all agree number 2 is important,

Why then, do so many of us enter without the consent and approval of those who know us best?

Because when it comes to romance we all have blind spots—areas of vulnerability that jeopardize our judgment.

I know we are in an independent season, cancel culture is at an all time high.

And most of the people we confide in are either abusive or misuse confidentiality BUT...

You need Counsel and Accountability when making relationship choices

Counsel and accountability can help protect you from making unwise choices in relationships because others can see red flags you may have overlooked.

I try not to do relationship tweets anymore, but, before you start forming an emotional bond do some check ok?

Follow on social media.
Watch,
observe, and trust your instincts. In your conversations ask lots of questions. Not just for conversation. Not to create an emotional connection. That comes later.

Right now you’re asking intentional questions for the purpose of evaluation.

If his/her answers are vague and full of non-disclosure, stay away.

Otherwise, store the information.

Don’t be so gullible that you believe everything s/he says.

Wait to see if words agree with actions.

Ask mutual friends you respect about him/her.

You may feel like you’re snooping, but you’re not.

Snooping is something you do when you have no reason other than sheer curiosity.

Here You’re taking an honest look at relationship suitability.

Notice who s/he hangs out with.

Ask to meet friends.

After all, we are best known by the company we keep.

Your heart is the most valuable asset you own, so don’t give it away just because the chemistry feels good.

Bible Verses to provide some context

“The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.”
Proverbs 12:26 NKJV
bible.com/114/pro.12.26.…

“He who gets wisdom loves his own soul; He who keeps understanding will find good.”
Proverbs 19:8 NKJV
bible.com/114/pro.19.8.n…

Last thing I will say before starting my Volta Soccer is that be wary of anyone who doesn’t have anyone.

No mentors, No friends, no unit members, no church friends ... ah!

Grace to you.