Thread by @diaryofa9jagirl

Ife, this is a brief summary of my experience. I hope it blesses someone xx. Love you by the way xxx.

I met my husband in December 2003 through a friend. At the time, I had issues with my relationship because of the long distance (within Nigeria).

My ex boyfriend was at law school outside Lagos and communication was a big issue. Let’s just say, I didn’t expect anything from this ‘British boy’ because the one in my backyard was already an issue.

Within a few days of meeting my husband, the relationship crashed

( nothing to do with my husband, we had not started dating). This helped me make up my mind that I wasn’t going to give any long distant relationship a chance.

However, my London boy was so patient. Won’t stop calling me and sending me messages. Sometimes, I

would ignore his calls when I thought things were moving too fast.He was never one to ask why I didn’t pick up my calls or where I was. He would buy me really lovely gifts when coming to Nigeria on holidays. I started liking the attention.

After a couple of months, one of my

friends that lived in London called me to ask if I knew him. She warned me to stay away from him because he already had a son. She knew he didn’t live with his baby mama but Said they were still together and he would have told me about his son if he really liked me.

I said thank you, however, he wasn't my "boyfriend" yet. Hence he owed me no explanations. I didn't bother asking him about this either but I must admit it pushed me further away from him somewhat.

The next time he visited Nigeria, he told me there was someone he wanted

me to meet. I assumed it was his mum. But he gently begged me to come over to meet this person. I worked on the island so I stopped over on my way home. Low and behold, it was his 5 year old son. He had brought him from the UK. I didn’t know what to say but was nice to the boy.

When we were alone, he asked me to say something. I asked if there was anything more he had to say. Had he been married, engaged, did they ever live together as a couple? He said no. Anything between them ended before his son was born. I didn’t want to believe him but I had to

respect the fact that he had brought his son over to meet me.

I was having a chat with my mum a few days later and she gently nudged me to give this guy a chance. She had noticed the way he showered me with attention and how much he respected me. She didn’t have a clue

he had a son. I opened up my heart to love again and we got so close, we could speak on the phone for 6 hours. It was during one of these calls he said he couldn’t wait any longer and he wanted our parents to meet.

On the next trip, he proposed and we did the introduction.

By the way, his family are amazing. By December 2006, we were married.
I remember when he had to leave after our wedding, my resident visa was not ready at the time. I cried a river thinking he was going to abandon me. He kept reassuring me there was nothing to worry about

and never stopped communicating like he used to. This helped time go fast and by March, my spouse visa was ready and I moved here almost immediately.

Like every marriage, we had teething issues and still have our challenges but we have been together for over 13 years.

He is still the love of my life. We experienced a delay getting pregnant and as difficult as it was, he never made me feel less of a woman or spite me because he already had a son. He stood by me solidly. We have 2 children now and his son is still a part of our lives even

though he doesn’t live with us. He visits and he loves his younger ones soo much. He is a growing into an amazing gentleman just like his dad.

Long distant relationships are not easy for a lot of people but this doesn’t mean it can’t work for some. It has to be

without desperation and it’s not for monitoring spirits lol. However, like you always say Ife, don’t be afraid to give your all when you want something. At least you won’t regret you never tried.

There are people who said it won’t work. Some said, he met me yesterday and married me today. I heard all sorts but here we are today by the Grace of God. Love lives here. Xxx"

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