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The #Arewa streets are hot once more over a post @FakhuusHashim on the proposed family law. I wanted to stay away in peace after all the energy spent over the #MSII saga.
For many of us however, we can't help but access and contribute to situations.
For one to have an interest in the family law, you have to first be a Muslim. Your Islamic faith can never be complete until you totally submit that the rules of Allah SWA and that of his messenger SAW are paramount & unflawed even if you are deviant.
My stance for women & cricism of the contemporary Arewa family system is always within the confines of Islam because I am muslim. There are however certain interpretation of the Deen that are laced with patriarchy based on the fact that perception & bias is a human deficiency
I came across this draft almost a year ago through a sister on this platform and we saw it as welcome development and much needed step in the right direction. Islam has been in Hausa society for hundreds of years yet the circumstances of many Muslim women is sad.
The laws and regulations have always been there but adherence to them and ambiguity in conditions attached to these laws have always been silent. These ambiguity & silence have served as the pedestal many men have stepped on to abuse the rights of women.
I wish this document was more clear on certain issues. i'll address them one after the other.
157:viii In light of contemporary challenges & the need for the Ummah to cope global development it should be right to knowledge both Sharia & Western, Allah ordained humans to read.
158:1 obedience to a husband is emphasised in Islam with conditions which the sharia may not capture. We have seen instances where women bleed to death at childbirth because obedience was taken too far. There is need to state out early circumstances obedience becomes nullified.
158: ii I once read a document where SAW reportedly admonished men from treating women badly during the day but approaching them for sex at night.
This abuse by day is a norm in many marriages and so is not providing a womans other basic material needs but demanding sex at night
158:v, vi and vii This has been issue of contention on these same Twitter some weeks ago.
I have nothing against cooking for a husband.
I have a PhD and a good paying job & yet I most times drop meals for husband if he happens to be home & I need to go out to work.
Sometimes however I cannot & since my career is based on mutual agreement we both eat outside or the maid does the meals.
I feel this should be strongly recommended, not a right especially where the spouses can afford a help or in the event of a challenge on the part of the wife
A failure to provide a meal or keep a house clean by the wife even if it's something she does always has earned many
women a beating and sometimes divorce. In 2020 we are still emphasizing housework & childcare as the sole domain of a woman even when SAW's life showed contrary.
160: the importance of sex in marriage is stated in 157, 158 & 159. Why must it be singled out in 160 as if it's something only the man needs. Can't a wife initiate sex and it should be emphasized to the man to oblige her.
These are some of the silence and ambiguities I see
A code meant to correct the problems in our society cannot afford to be sent on certain issues because you are just giving biased implementers the chance to bend the laws to their own interests.
There were other areas observed alongside my sister the @TheOblongata long time ago.
Wish she were here to help point them out on a certain consent or right of a woman linked to marriage. I can't remember the section but I remember us discussing why a 14 year old married girl gets to make a decision while a 30 year old unmarried woman cannot.
Fakriyya is young & hot headed even if she meant well. Wisdom comes to people as they grow. Before you castigate & call her names there is the need to study & reflect on a proposed code that will bind our lives making sure it is pure Quran/Sunnah not culturally overpowered.
I am unsure but almost convinced that no woman was part of that committee to provide a womanly perspective to the challenges bedevilling muslim northern Nigeria.
So think before you are subject to a law where you'll be that woman with 10 hands while oga is 'legally' playing GTA
May Allah help us continue to fight & contribute for a better Ummah. I seek Allah's forgiveness where I have erred. We can engage positively for a better society but if you abuse me, this App will not contain us wo. 😏
PS. I have the full proposed law for those interested 😁
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