1. We minimize our reality because we don’t want to be seen as whiners & because we’ve noticed the “she had cancer & never complained once” stories that are usually bullshit but still consumed happily as inspirational.
(Note: I’m well medicated right now. I may regret this tweet and others later. But I don’t care.)
But to demystify this and because sex is good, I might start answering “sex” to the prayer request question.
But they don’t mean we’re all better. A great day is a great day, not a cure.
People with chronic illness don’t need “get well soon” friends. We need ones who are willing to stay and hold space when we don’t.
We don’t know how to show up when the hard stretch isn’t time limited. And I don’t know the answer to “how can I help?”
That hurt. We left.
36. All the “what not to say” lists might make you scared to say anything. Use those as educational pieces, but PLEASE risk insulting instead of isolating. You might mess up. You probably will. Friendship involves vulnerability and risk. Risk it if we’re friends.