“What I observe”, “what I feel”, “What I need” and “Would you be willing to___”
--Avoid negotiating agreements around jealousy! Be in a full brain, calm and a space where you're able to assume best intent from your person and yourself.
--Invite partners INTO your vulnerability than pushing them away.
--Sooth & nurture! Even if it's awkward and even if you hate it when your partner feels jealous! Warm each other's heart. Hold hands when talking about the hard stuff. We can be dealing with the hard stuff, we can still be a team.
--Avoid reactivity! You're going to feel jealous, hurt, offended, angry. Feel them past their highest intensity before trying to interact and connect with another.