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I haven't done a #SundaySoapbox for a bit, so here is one inspired by expectations of women in politics.
This morning I woke up to 3 messages on the same tweet.
This morning I woke up to 3 messages on the same tweet.
I recognize the person I was replying to and have a generally favorable opinion of them, I wasn't mad or upset when responding.
I don't respond in public in the rare moments when I feel upset by someone; I put my device down.
Here is the exchange:
I don't respond in public in the rare moments when I feel upset by someone; I put my device down.
Here is the exchange:
I even know what causes the phenomenon that is underlying the exchange.
I get the most exposure on average with snark on Susan Collins. Twitter is mad at her, so an offhand comment will get thousands of likes and pop up often for my followers.
I get the most exposure on average with snark on Susan Collins. Twitter is mad at her, so an offhand comment will get thousands of likes and pop up often for my followers.
Every once and a while something I say will blow up on an issue.
That's generally unexpected and when I am sharing something that gut-punched me, not where I am trying to be compelling or funny or purposeful.
Like this:
That's generally unexpected and when I am sharing something that gut-punched me, not where I am trying to be compelling or funny or purposeful.
Like this:
Next up for popularity is my random shares about my day. The stories I give in the moment so that those following me can be at least somewhat certain I'm not a polished commodity packaged for consumption.
I'm just a mom - like many of my followers.
I'm just a mom - like many of my followers.
On average, short poignant statements on issues get way more attention than in-depth coverage of issues.
For example, #readthebill
For example, #readthebill
I can't make people scroll my feed or use the search feature for answers.
I have a link to a website and use the moments feature.
There are only so many ways to respond to the same questions/comments.
I'm sure it can be annoying to see the same answers.
I have a link to a website and use the moments feature.
There are only so many ways to respond to the same questions/comments.
I'm sure it can be annoying to see the same answers.
Long way to say I'm not upset or snarky. I know the issue. I've tried to find ways to conquer the issue. Nearly every time I do, I get feedback.
I presume everyone giving me feedback is attempting to be sincerely helpful and is giving me a gift of their time to write it out.
I presume everyone giving me feedback is attempting to be sincerely helpful and is giving me a gift of their time to write it out.
Excerpts from feedback on this tweet:
1. At times you come across as bordering on belligerent. Your reply here sounded to me as quite combative.
2. You sound really weak when you repeat yourself. I don't like seeing it in my feed, you are pandering. Tell them to look it up.
1. At times you come across as bordering on belligerent. Your reply here sounded to me as quite combative.
2. You sound really weak when you repeat yourself. I don't like seeing it in my feed, you are pandering. Tell them to look it up.
3. You have amazing patience. I don't know how you so calmly explain to people things they could find with a simple search.
These are the 3 common feedback themes, and I'm so very amused they came about the same tweet on the same day.
These are the 3 common feedback themes, and I'm so very amused they came about the same tweet on the same day.
I hear pretty much every day at least 2 bad for every good, usually:
1. argumentative/bitchy/patronizing
2. weak/pandering/bending over backwards
3. patient/kind/composed
Running for office as a woman is like navigating bedtime as Goldilocks.
1. argumentative/bitchy/patronizing
2. weak/pandering/bending over backwards
3. patient/kind/composed
Running for office as a woman is like navigating bedtime as Goldilocks.
We expect women to be funny, but not too much - lest they might not be serious
Serious, but not too much - lest they might be emotionally flat
Emotional, but not too much - lest they might not be controlled
Controlled, but not too much - lest they be a bitch
#SundaySoapbox
Serious, but not too much - lest they might be emotionally flat
Emotional, but not too much - lest they might not be controlled
Controlled, but not too much - lest they be a bitch
#SundaySoapbox
So, um, I guess this #SundaySoapbox is a long way to say I do appreciate the feedback.
I just don't know how to be less argumentative while also being stronger...and I don't know that I really want to.
It's ok if you think I'm a bitch.
I just don't know how to be less argumentative while also being stronger...and I don't know that I really want to.
It's ok if you think I'm a bitch.
