"the root cause is growing market demand for anomie-busting"
But this isn't a list it's a framework
"a good theory of life rules, and a meaningfully systematic procedure for generating them"
"In the short term, other people’s rules can get you through a rough patch. In the medium term, you have to at least adapt them to your own life. But in the long term, only making your own rules works."
"They do not, in other words, constitute clean MECE (mutually exclusive, collectively exhaustive) coverage of the messiness of life, capable of bringing order to chaos in any sort of guaranteed way."
"Here’s the central dogma of my theory of life rule sets: Life rule sets are about governing task-negative cognition."
And you're there a lot
"Mind wandering is the brain basically running potentially useful prospective thought processes."
"you don’t have a preference...You don’t need a rule. Do whatever."
"This has a crucial effect: for task-positive work, means-ends reasoning is enough. You don’t need values, principles, rules, or ethical ruminations."
"The DMN is the source of both much of our creativity, and much of our obsessional anxiety. It is the source of both our best growth experiences, and our worst experiences of stuckness. It is the seat of both genius and depression."
"The simplest kind of rule set is one with zero rules. This is meditation."
Yoga and such (+TPN) count too
"The more active and sensorily open your DMN-mode, the safer it is because the more it is reined in."
"There are three natural levels to using the map: beginner, intermediate, and advanced...Nobody is stopping you from making rules beyond your level, but chances are they’ll be vacuous platitudes if you try...before you’ve had the necessary life experiences"
"Rule 5 to define your relationship to history, and the future, and how you fit"
"Rule 6 to define your basic relationship to a public life...a conscious attitude about being about X."
"3 basic regimes: I-thou (rat to crow, home to public, the be-somebody edge), I-it (rat to goat, home to frontier, the do-something edge) and public (goat to crow, frontier to public, been there, done that edge)"
Intimacy and physicality
"Our intimate relationships are where our socially defined identities start to bleed into our physically defined ones."
'Sciencing' and measurement
"humans are the measure of the meaning of life, not things to be measured for meaning."
Public action and persona
"One governs the decision to go public, the other defines the nature of the act of appearing in public."
"Often your first version of Rules 7-12 are discovered via crashing into a crisis and coming out alive."
"As you approach the center of the triangle, your rules start to break down, first into memes, aphorisms, and jokes"
"you cannot actually stop your mind from wandering across the boundary, into the triangle and inching towards the void"
"I like thinking of the void dot as a literal attention blackhole. When your attention wanders closer than you can handle, you can enter non-terminating thoughts."
"Each time you visit, thoughts that don’t kill you will make you stronger. But there’s always the chance that you’ll think that one thought that can break your mind."