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1. Hello and welcome! It’s episode 268 of #MrMrsBetterHalf. Mr. & Mrs Better Half is designed to strengthen marriages & relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God's Word. 
2. In the last episode, we discussed the topic, “Leave So You Can Cleave” Missed it? Catch up here: bit.ly/2mVWfAZ #MrMrsBetterHalf
3. This week’s topic is “Marriage is Made in Heaven but Assembled on Earth”. Marriage is a mystery likened to the relationship between Christ and the Church and understanding that relationship will help us make the most of ours. #MrMrsBetterHalf
4. By likening a marital relationship between a man and a woman to that between Christ and the church, you can tell that it is primarily a spiritual relationship, not a physical one as most think. #MrMrsBetterHalf
5. Marriage was God’s idea, not man’s idea; it wasn’t a people’s culture that others started to copy the way people do pop culture. #MrMrsBetterHalf
6. That wasn’t the case at all; God created Adam, the first man, and said it was not good for him to be alone and went ahead to make him a companion and helpmeet that was suitable and comparable to him. #MrMrsBetterHalf
7. For it to succeed, we must understand what God intended when he created marriage, as it can’t be fully expressed outside the spiritual construct. When God designs a product, He is very particular about its components and how it should be utilized. #MrMrsBetterHalf
8. If you buy something from a retailer without checking the manual in assembling the product, you might have challenges just by ignoring those instructions because the manufacturer had something in mind while developing the product. #MrMrsBetterHalf
9. Marriage is about a partnership to fulfil God’s purpose for us on earth. The elasticity of natural/physical love is limited but we can achieve much more with God in the picture. #MrMrsBetterHalf
10. So, if you want God-type results in your marriage, obey the owner’s manual – it’s as simple as that. Marriage, according to God’s original intention, is highly spiritual even though it is operated emotionally. #MrMrsBetterHalf
11. The currency for human relationships is emotions. Man is a spirit; he has a soul and lives in a body. Our physical world works with physical expressions of things. Otherwise, God would have left us as spirits! #MrMrsBetterHalf
12. Even if you are born again and spiritual, when you get home to your family, they want a mum/dad/wife/husband, not someone who is so spiritual that s/he is useless to the people on earth. #MrMrsBetterHalf
13. If your spouse is trying to have a conversation with you about important family goals or budget, you won’t respond by speaking in tongues. You’ would speak a language they understand and can make sense of. #MrMrsBetterHalf
14. Even Jesus had human emotions and behaviour while he walked the earth – he showed love, had compassion, fed people, prayed, forgave, was angry. He could have remained perfect just to prove that He is the son of God without blemish. #MrMrsBetterHalf
15. Not understanding the purpose of marriage can skew your expectations of it and how you treat it. If marriage is spiritual but operated emotionally, then in making it work, you must emulate how things work spiritually. #MrMrsBetterHalf
16. Growing up spiritually to becoming more like Christ requires discipline & work & it’s not always the most palatable experience. Things like prayer, fasting, reading the Bible regularly help you discipline & edify your spirit & bring about spiritual growth. #MrMrsBetterHalf
17. But these only happen if they are habitual. The easiest way to get into anything that will improve your life is to turn them into habits. The moment you get used to them; the things that you used to struggle with will become easier. #MrMrsBetterHalf
18. For example, when you first start to work out or go to the gym, the bodily discomfort & pain you’d feel can make you stop altogether or wonder why you got yourself into this. However, if you keep at it, u will see improvements in ur body & ur overall health. #MrMrsBetterHalf
19. The same way, marriage requires a commitment to discipline but some people are not willing to give it the effort required. The Bible talks about Jesus presenting the church to himself as a bride, taking away all blemish and presenting her holy. #MrMrsBetterHalf
20. Taking away blemish is never without discomfort, sometimes pain but God’s grace is available if we rely on the Holy Spirit to put His joy in our hearts. Happiness is a by-product of a marriage that’s being worked on. #MrMrsBetterHalf
21. If a marriage works as it should, it can be one of the greatest ways for you to experience the love of God. A good marriage will not just happen, it needs attention. You must choose to invest a little more in your marriage for it to thrive. #MrMrsBetterHalf
22. This means commitment. People think the most important word in marriage is love, but that word has been bastardized to refer to infatuation or lust and many other things. The most important word in marriage is commitment. #MrMrsBetterHalf
23. Love is spelt COMMITMENT. If you are not committed in your marriage, then you do not really love your spouse or understand what true love is about. To begin to nurture your (future) marriage, start with commitment. #MrMrsBetterHalf
24. In the story of the bacon and eggs, the pig was committed but the hen was only involved. The pig was committed by laying down its life to provide the bacon while the hen laid eggs and moved on. #MrMrsBetterHalf
25. Involvement means participation while commitment means that you are a catalyst. A catalyst makes things happen, is not just playing games and is not only responding to his/her environment. #MrMrsBetterHalf
26. In your marriage, are you committed or just involved? Because both are worlds apart. Commitment gives everything without holding back! Involvement is only for the good times, to disappear when things go rough. #MrMrsBetterHalf
27. Singles, as you prepare for marriage, are you watching out for involvement or commitment? If there is no commitment, you get “I think I do” in place of “I do”. Some people get to the altar thinking they do and that they are ready when they actually aren’t. #MrMrsBetterHalf
28. Why do you want to get married? Because you are of age, under pressure from family, have money and “can feed two mouths” or because you truly understand the purpose of marriage – when the purpose of a thing is unknown, abuse is inevitable. #MrMrsBetterHalf
29. Be sure to lay the right foundation for your marriage. Don’t treat your marriage like a weed - weeds are left unattended, people have no expectation of them, and they can be here today and uprooted tomorrow. #MrMrsBetterHalf
30. Trees, on the other hand, have roots and can stand the test of time. Ask yourself this as it concerns your marriage: are you growing a weed or a tree? The way you are currently treating your marriage will help you figure out the answer to this question. #MrMrsBetterHalf
31. The good news is that you can start to grow a tree if you realise that you are currently growing a weed but you must determine in your heart that you will begin to nurture your relationship and treasure it like a tree. #MrMrsBetterHalf
32. I hope this has been helpful to you. I will be back next week with another topic. Until then, thanks for following, participating an RTing. May your marriages and relationships be sweet! #MrMrsBetterHalf
