This shit NEVER stops hurting.
We know exactly how they see us.
That point - that moment - we hate that moment. It took everything from us.
I mean, I do. My biggest fear is that I’m wrong about this.
But I’m not wrong.
If I’m wrong about this, then my education meant nothing.
If I’m wrong about this, then I was wrong to become a feminist.
If I’m wrong about this, then there is no role for logic or language in my world.
I miss my fucking friends, and I wish to god I was wrong and could just make all this go away.
I hate this. I love the women I’ve met, but I hate that this is why I met them.
I hate this.
And it’s okay, because I don’t want friendship that only stays if I lie.
But it’s not okay. It’s really not.
Being ostracized for being a lesbian is not okay.
She was my roommate for a while.
She’s cared for my children, and I’ve picked up “stuff you left with that ex you don’t want to see again” for her.
She is one of the few friends that pre-date the abusive marriage I escaped.
So if you’re an activist hoping for that moment, let go of it. It isn’t coming.
This work will cost you everything.