Thread by @ArmaniTalks

The best speakers have a HIGH tolerance for embarrassment.

Pretty sure they have choked a speech or forgot a point on stage.

They were embarassed.

The audience giggled.

And life moved on.

Since that moment, they realized the biggest critic of embarrassment is the inner voice

You ever seen someone slip & fall?

'Haha, yea I did.'

Pretty embarrassing for them right?

'Ya. Very embarrassing.'

Did you spend all day/week thinking about it?

'Fuck no.'

Why?

'Because I have more important things to worry about.'

Exactly....👀👇

Your ego makes you think that the world revolves around you.

That's when you think your self image is someone else's concern

This causes you to put a magnifying glass on the opinions of others.

Allowing your self image to be dictated by opinions will have you shying away from the big moments.

You'll lose your ability to take risks.

And even when you do take a risk, you're going to do it with a half assed effort.

But in reality, your ego is just a PIXEL in the picture of life.

It isn't the entire picture.

Until you can understand this, you'll always over think embarrassing moments.

During Toastmasters, I've seen plenty of people choke, forget their speech mid point, accidentally drop a curse word.

At most, the audience had a chuckle.

And if the speaker was smart, they'd JOIN them on the chuckle.

Learning to laugh off embarrassing moments is a superpower.

Because when you can zoom out & see the bigger picture, you'll realize people will forget.

And tbh, you will forget as well.

But after the embarrassing moment, the harshest critic is the inner voice.

Fools you into thinking that everyone is gossiping about you.

And they are planning your downfall.

While in reality, they are back to focusing on their problems.

Their dreams.

Their responsibilities etc.

You take up less than 1% of their daily thoughts.

Unless you DIRECTLY do something to threaten someones identity, they won't think about you like that.

And if you don't believe me, then analyze your own thoughts.

Most are centered around you.

Just like others thoughts are centered around them.

Public speaking (or any high pressure situation) requires you to keep eye on the bigger picture.

And that is making yourself proud.

Even If you choke on stage, give yourself a pat on the back for getting on stage.

Most do not have the courage to do that.

Then, have a good laugh over it with yourself.

After you did all that, own up to the error & see how you can improve for next time.

Public speaking is one of those sports that you get better with time.

You overplay your speech anxiety when you have a scarcity mindset towards speeches.

Scratch that.

Abundance mentality towards speeches.

Abundance mentality towards anything that you fear.

The opportunities are limitless when you shape your mind to see it.

Embarrassment or not, life will move on.

People will have a giggle & go back to their lives

As you will go back to yours

But once you come back to your life, it's your choice on whether you're going to play victim or victor.

Can't be both.

Each time you rise again, each time you unlock the mythical Phoenix within you.

The ancient bird, which cyclically burned itself to once again rise from the ashes & come out STRONGER.

Be the Phoenix in your life.

Level up when the world pulls you down.

Public speaking was fun all along.

Just need to view it with the right lens.

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