An amusing part of giving people the “Working with me” speech is addressing being a Japanese salaryman and entrepreneur, which are two canons of behavior that I spent material effort on, can code switch into, and *do not have full introspection on when they are operating.*
One of my documented examples of this: I once sent an American “That is an interesting idea, boss. I will think about it and get back to you.” and *did not remember* that that wouldn’t be automatically translated into “Firm no. FYI: I perceive you as being supportive of the no.”
“Wait what is the boss supposed to do with that?”
If boss comes back with “Perhaps you could [concrete action such as ‘present your findings on Tuesday’]” then that says “This is actually an order” + “FYI: Recalibrate on whether you’re reading me accurately, but don’t feel bad.”
If boss comes back with “Perhaps you could [concrete action such as ‘present your findings on Tuesday’]” then that says “This is actually an order” + “FYI: Recalibrate on whether you’re reading me accurately, but don’t feel bad.”
