Been watching Outlaw King on Netflix. There’s a part where the wife of Robert the Bruce says ‘Power is making decisions, and whatever course you are charting, I choose you, my husband’
It struck me that my own wife had said almost these same words to me in 2005,...
It struck me that my own wife had said almost these same words to me in 2005,...
when I’d decided to take a job in Orlando that would uproot us from family and friends. There was no “,...but what about my friends, career, etc.?” from her and I had no hesitation to consider anything but taking the position. She said, “You are my husband, I go where you go.”
How many men hold a default Frame in their marriage? Women are reluctant to accept their man’s last name today. There’s a lot of BS reasons for this, but the core truth is women have no confidence in their man in the long term. They don’t trust his ‘course’.
There’s holding Frame, and then there’s establishing a long term Frame, a paradigm, that defines a man’s authority in his marriage and family relationships. Women today still want marriage, but few want to defer to their husband’s ‘course’. They don’t trust him with her life.
