📓 25 SOCIAL SKILLS lessons that will make You Socially Intelligent today!
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1. It’s not about WHAT you say, it’s how you make them FEEL
The words, for the most part, are irrelevant
The vibe, energy and intention behind the words are what counts
Focus on how you want someone to feel rather then fixating on WHAT to say
You’ll be much more effective
The words, for the most part, are irrelevant
The vibe, energy and intention behind the words are what counts
Focus on how you want someone to feel rather then fixating on WHAT to say
You’ll be much more effective
2. Eye contact
Learn to make & hold eye contact with those you’re speaking with
It’s respectful and shows you’re paying attention—people love attention
This means people will feel more comfortable with you when you pay attention to them
It also displays your confidence
Learn to make & hold eye contact with those you’re speaking with
It’s respectful and shows you’re paying attention—people love attention
This means people will feel more comfortable with you when you pay attention to them
It also displays your confidence
3. Posture
Don’t walk in looking like the hunchback
Good posture, such as chin up and shoulders back, is good for your body and displays high status and confidence
It will increase your mood and others will notice your confidence
Chin up-Shoulder back-hands not in pockets
Don’t walk in looking like the hunchback
Good posture, such as chin up and shoulders back, is good for your body and displays high status and confidence
It will increase your mood and others will notice your confidence
Chin up-Shoulder back-hands not in pockets
4. Anxiety
In my opinion, the best way to deal with anxiety is to face it
When you feel it, stand your ground and move forward
What helped me was running towards the anxious feelings and continued engagement of whatever I was doing
When you run from it, it will chase you
In my opinion, the best way to deal with anxiety is to face it
When you feel it, stand your ground and move forward
What helped me was running towards the anxious feelings and continued engagement of whatever I was doing
When you run from it, it will chase you
5. Vocal tonality
Don’t sound like a little pip squeak
If you want to be taken seriously, develop a commanding voice
To do this, practice speaking from your belly
Inhale and talk as if it’s coming from your gut
This will make your voice much stronger
Don’t sound like a little pip squeak
If you want to be taken seriously, develop a commanding voice
To do this, practice speaking from your belly
Inhale and talk as if it’s coming from your gut
This will make your voice much stronger
6. Perspective (l)
Sometimes things are always what they seem to be
When failure strikes you, look for the opportunity in it
Look deeply for the little opportunities in all of your struggles & failures
This will remove you from the negative & back into the positive mindset
Sometimes things are always what they seem to be
When failure strikes you, look for the opportunity in it
Look deeply for the little opportunities in all of your struggles & failures
This will remove you from the negative & back into the positive mindset
Perspective (ll)
Remember, most things happening are outside of your control
Focus on what you can control and do your best
Not everyone is going to like you
Not everything is going to go your way
But how you choose to respond is under your control
Remember, most things happening are outside of your control
Focus on what you can control and do your best
Not everyone is going to like you
Not everything is going to go your way
But how you choose to respond is under your control
7. Go for it
It’s always better to start that conversation and fail miserably than to never have tried at all
Because when you fail, you’ll learn what not to do
This is just as important as knowing what to do
Take what you leaned and go for it again
Never quit
It’s always better to start that conversation and fail miserably than to never have tried at all
Because when you fail, you’ll learn what not to do
This is just as important as knowing what to do
Take what you leaned and go for it again
Never quit
8. Question asking (l)
Most people ask questions that generate yes or no responses
These are typically closed questions
Start asking open ended questions
Questions that generate feeling, emotion and imagination
Most people ask questions that generate yes or no responses
These are typically closed questions
Start asking open ended questions
Questions that generate feeling, emotion and imagination
Questions (ll)
❌”What’s your favorite country?”
✅”if you could go anywhere in the world right now, where would you go & Why?”
Big difference
First ? Generates a simple answer
Second ? Generates a feeling based answer and digs deeper into the why behind the answer
❌”What’s your favorite country?”
✅”if you could go anywhere in the world right now, where would you go & Why?”
Big difference
First ? Generates a simple answer
Second ? Generates a feeling based answer and digs deeper into the why behind the answer
9. Listen more
Try to listen more when others are speaking
This means no checking phones or gazing off into space
Focus on what they’re saying by processing the information internally
Don’t focus on how to respond, just listen and understand them
Try to listen more when others are speaking
This means no checking phones or gazing off into space
Focus on what they’re saying by processing the information internally
Don’t focus on how to respond, just listen and understand them
10. Speak less
When you speak, you give away a lot of information about yourself
You lose mystery = boring
Also, you’re not allowing others to speak denying them attention
This will make you seem like a loud mouth that only cares about himself
Let others talk more
When you speak, you give away a lot of information about yourself
You lose mystery = boring
Also, you’re not allowing others to speak denying them attention
This will make you seem like a loud mouth that only cares about himself
Let others talk more
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11. Believe in yourself
You need to believe that you’re capable of achieving it
You CAN talk to anyone
You CAN become a leader
You CAN become a natural people person
You need to believe you can do all of those things in order to do it
You need to believe that you’re capable of achieving it
You CAN talk to anyone
You CAN become a leader
You CAN become a natural people person
You need to believe you can do all of those things in order to do it
12. Intention
MOVE & SPEAK WITH INTENTION
Your actions and words need to be congruent with your behavior
People won’t take you seriously if you don’t even believe what you’re doing or saying
You need to stop questioning your action when trying to convince others of it
MOVE & SPEAK WITH INTENTION
Your actions and words need to be congruent with your behavior
People won’t take you seriously if you don’t even believe what you’re doing or saying
You need to stop questioning your action when trying to convince others of it
13. Relating with others
This is KEY to building comfort
When in conversation, listen to what they say and try your best to relate to them with a similar experience of your own
This will make you seem similar to them and make you more likeable
Listen & relate to them
This is KEY to building comfort
When in conversation, listen to what they say and try your best to relate to them with a similar experience of your own
This will make you seem similar to them and make you more likeable
Listen & relate to them
14. Observation
Always observe what’s going on around you
Baby crying, construction work sounds, cop whistle, girls laughing in the coffee shop
Be aware of your surroundings and know where the exit points are
Just be aware of what’s happening around you
Always observe what’s going on around you
Baby crying, construction work sounds, cop whistle, girls laughing in the coffee shop
Be aware of your surroundings and know where the exit points are
Just be aware of what’s happening around you
15. Lower your tone in argument
When everyone is screaming, keep your cool and lower your tone
This will lead the screamers to match your tone and ultimately defuse the argument
Bring down the volume to end the fight or argument
When everyone is screaming, keep your cool and lower your tone
This will lead the screamers to match your tone and ultimately defuse the argument
Bring down the volume to end the fight or argument
16. Empathy
Try to place yourself in the shoes of others
Try to see things from their perspective
This will help you see where they’re coming, helping you to better understand them
Try to feel for them & pay attention to them
This will create deep rapport with them
Try to place yourself in the shoes of others
Try to see things from their perspective
This will help you see where they’re coming, helping you to better understand them
Try to feel for them & pay attention to them
This will create deep rapport with them
17. Slow down your speech
Simple: stop talking so quickly because you’ll appear nervous & no one will understand you
18. Don’t stand still
Move around the room
Talk to everyone and become the person that everyone knows
Be comfortable with everyone & network with others
Simple: stop talking so quickly because you’ll appear nervous & no one will understand you
18. Don’t stand still
Move around the room
Talk to everyone and become the person that everyone knows
Be comfortable with everyone & network with others
19. Stop caring as much
You’re going to die...
Are you going to continue to let others dictate what you do, say and act? Be you and enjoy yourself
20. Energy
Be mindful of your energy and try to raise the energy of others
Be the energy in the room
BE the party
You’re going to die...
Are you going to continue to let others dictate what you do, say and act? Be you and enjoy yourself
20. Energy
Be mindful of your energy and try to raise the energy of others
Be the energy in the room
BE the party
21. Touching
Don’t be afraid to lightly touch people in conversation when making points or poking fun
Touching is a quick way to build comfort when done appropriately
22. Be genuine
Try to be genuine as possible
Be interested and curious about your new interactions
Don’t be afraid to lightly touch people in conversation when making points or poking fun
Touching is a quick way to build comfort when done appropriately
22. Be genuine
Try to be genuine as possible
Be interested and curious about your new interactions
23. Remove your filter
Stop judging yourself and worrying about what others will think about what you say or do
Allow yourself to say what you’re thinking without filtering it through others opinions
Accept yourself, & if you suck become better
Stop judging yourself and worrying about what others will think about what you say or do
Allow yourself to say what you’re thinking without filtering it through others opinions
Accept yourself, & if you suck become better
24. Don’t hang too long
If the convo is dead, walk away
You don’t want to make it awkward with weird jokes & random topics
Close out at the right time
25. Keep your word
Say why you mean and mean what you say
Stick to your word and back it up
Keep your promises
If the convo is dead, walk away
You don’t want to make it awkward with weird jokes & random topics
Close out at the right time
25. Keep your word
Say why you mean and mean what you say
Stick to your word and back it up
Keep your promises
Hope you guys enjoyed this thread
Any questions, hit my dm
Talk soon,
Paul
Any questions, hit my dm
Talk soon,
Paul
