Thread by @diaryofa9jagirl

I’ve seen this many times and heard it many times so today I’ll address this issue.

If you’ve ever insulted or shamed anyone for being divorced, calling them “miserable” “lonely” and “a failure” but you yourself are managing your partner, begging them to love you, climbing...

mountains praying for them to act right, staying put for society even though your level of unhappiness is higher than the pyramids; YOU ARE THE ONE WE ARE WORRIED ABOUT.

Why? Because you’re barely functioning in your disfunction, your heart is heavy all the time and for a long

... time now, joy has left you.

Not only is your self-esteem shattered, but you’re also psychotic. Psychotic for coming alive only when you have the opportunity to shame others for their perceived marital failure. Your home doesn’t bring you happiness,so you have become a witch.

If you’re single and you’ve shamed divorcees, why don’t you wait till you begin the union and see how much of a hard work you need to put in for you to “live happily ever after.” Have you endured a battle where you close from work and the last place you want to go is home?

Ms & Mr single, have you ever internalised the shame of being abandoned yet you wake up every single day beside the person who’s broken your heart? You storm out of your boy/girlfriend’s house and head to yours when you fight. Do you know how it feels not to be able to leave?

If you’re married happily and you shame the divorcees, Ma’am/Sir, relax your shoulders, they’re too high they’ve blocked your view of reality. Instead of shaming the divorced, you should be learning from them. Because having worked hard to achieve the fulfillment you feel now,

you must keep learning to keep it that way. So thank the divorced because they’re willing to speak their truth so that you don’t make the same mistakes they did.

You’re not better than them because you’re happily married, your story is just different.

Now, drop your shoulders!

Dear Divorcee,

Congratulations on your new beginning, you’re no more stuck in quicksand. You’ve found your way out so now you can breathe in the fresh air.

How strong are you? I’ll tell you.

You’ve dropped your ego, the desire to please society, culture and religion and

you’ve chosen YOUR TRUTH and self-worth, you now know better. This is something to be proud of, this is a quality that I would love in a partner, a friend, and an acquaintance.

Well done!

Dear everyone,

Divorce isn’t the problem, unhealthy relationships are.

#DANG