This thread has so many toxic and dangerous statements that I wonder why people are cheering the writer. This is prime example of what it means to weaponize femininity but the gag is that women are the ones who will still suffer at the end.
First, taking responsibility away from women and putting it solely on men is ridiculous and actually a way to disempower women. And even if all she said seems “attractive” in theory we have actually seen this in play.
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So you saying men are solely responsible for unwanted pregnancies which is not only untrue but a way to rob women of agency over their bodies- fostering a victim mentality
But let’s talk about how this is actually in play in Nigeria-When a woman gets pregnant (wanted or unwanted) and gives birth- it’s common to hear “Oh You gave him a son” ”You have a child for him”
There’s already a belief that the child belongs to the man because it’s his sperm!
There’s already a belief that the child belongs to the man because it’s his sperm!
Let’s dig deeper – What happens when it’s a man who believes boys have more value? Then it becomes “My son “and “Your daughter”- Another vicious cycle has been put in motion.
Her rhetoric is overly simplified and paints men as people who have zero empathy and animalistic instinct that they must unleash at every sexual encounter –
Speaking of how men refuse to use condoms because of the heightened pleasure but NEWS FLASH! Women ALSO refuse men to wear condoms because of the SAME reason!
As a woman, you carry EQUAL responsibilities as the man! You both had consensual sex- which means you both have to be READY for the CONSEQUENCES.
Nobody “made” you pregnant! If you decide that you do not want to go on Birth Control, then you must ENSURE that your partner is using a condom.
But wait a minute!
But wait a minute!
Don’t we also have female condoms? Why are we not talking about that? Could it be that they are “Uncomfortable” and “reduces” the pleasure during sex?
You cannot say that the problem is due to the fact that men cum irresponsibly because not only is that slightly stupid it’s also DANGEROUS as it positions women as people who are not equal participants in the sexual activity-
Are we not already trying to debunk the notion that sex is something a woman offers to a man?
The problem with extremist views like these is the fact that they become EXACTLY what they are fighting against. You want to shift the blame from women to men but nothing changes! It’s still imbalanced – It only leads to another social structure that oppresses a group of people
So let’s say a man cums irresponsibly, does it mean he has more say over what happens to the baby? Because after all, it’s his sperm! Or what if he decides to take responsibility for the actions of his irresponsible penis- does that take abortion off the table?
Of course not! Because women will still come out to say that it’s their body so they can do what they want with it!
So please explain to me how this helps reduce abortions?
So please explain to me how this helps reduce abortions?
The idea of men being castrated! Just STOP!
But let’s look into the other option- Vasectomy! This is not a bad idea at all! But we know many men who are not ready for kids will still not do this and this has nothing to do with wanting to suffer women etc.-
But let’s look into the other option- Vasectomy! This is not a bad idea at all! But we know many men who are not ready for kids will still not do this and this has nothing to do with wanting to suffer women etc.-
It’s more of an attachment they have with their “seeds”- a definition of their masculinity! And worse a fear that they will never be able to stop shooting blanks – which is ALSO the SAME fear many women have towards BC- they fear that they will never be able to have kids.
So I ask – is it a man thing or a human thing?
Did I also add that women become incredibly horny during their ovulation period –even nature and biology sets women up to yearn for sex in their “heat” period. So yes! That 2/3 days that women can easily pregnant is exactly when they are the HORNIEST!
As women, it’s a painful reality that pregnancy burdens us more than men- so I’m totally against the idea that someone should be solely responsible for preventing it on our behalf
This act of blaming men ONLY robs women of their autonomy and agency. Both men and women are responsible for wanted or unwanted pregnancies
You want to tackle abortions? Bring up preventive measures that both men and women should engage in – For women it’s Birth Control and men –condom/ Vasectomy. It's not an either-or situation here- they must work together!
Instead of shifting the blame to men – we just have to men also accountable for their actions and include them in birth control and family planning discussions.
