But then why do they have so many?
Because, they want to make new Souls (to be prepared for Heaven) and new Soldiers (my dad often spoke of growing an army not a football team)
Now, don't get me wrong, if you WANT a big family and can bring it to life and you are going to love it, even if you can't always cope (who can?) GO AHEAD! I'm with you!
'He that spareth the rod hateth his son; but he day loveth him chasteneth him betimes.' (Prov. 13.24)"
No contextualisation, no Jewish take on the verse, just verses popped out of chapters like pills.
You don't understand
You don't love your child
You are putting your ("self serving") feelings ahead of truth
You don't understand God
Your child will suffer later in life
You are weak
"True love is disinterested."
"Chasten thy son while there is hope and let not thy soul spare for his crying..." Prov 19.18
For second generation kids, they've been taught unquestioning obedience to authority, what greater authority than God's Word, what can they do EXCEPT follow these strung together verses?
I.E. If I know what is life, and I come to the Bible and it seems to promote death, that is impossible, so I DIG for the core. #eXvangelical
"You may have strong feelings that prevent you from spanking your child, but it is not love. The God who made little children, and knows what is best for them, has told parents to employ the rod in training."
Parent, they say, BURRY YOUR LOVE.
But they focus on, "Whom the Lord loves he chasteneth..."
For everything that goes wrong in a life (or seems to go wrong), there are whispers that this is a punishment.
A. That being differently abled is less than,
B. That it is probably a punishment to you or your parents
(There are incredible teachings from wonderful disabled folk who talk intimately about living under that false teaching)
Going to your Church Community with personal problems, becomes a nightmare under this teaching:
Car crash? Run out of money? Death in the family? Headache? Miscarriage?
Whispers and separation happen as folk think, 'Is God spanking them?'
Weirdly the Pearl's don't mention this 🤷♂️🤷♀️🤷♂️
Yes, parents, go right ahead and whip your children to holiness. 🙄🙄🙄 Jesus WEPT.
Didn't happen, did it, Pearls.
Well this is a lie, but okay. 👌
What you mean is, The child learnt performative complience to avoid further pain.
And was FILLED with guilt for swearing.
I asked him to cane me, which he reluctantly did, and I then cried and hugged him and went back on my way.
And, tbh, if you believe in God as Father punishing Jesus as Son, yeah, everything above makes sense.
I........ What the fuck.... I.... What.....
A CHILD IN A DIAPER.
SLAPS ON A GIRLS BARE BOTTOM.
A FUCKING DIAPER.
THIS IS DESCRIBED AS CUTE.
A harder sound to hear as a ten year old, is when the stick misses the diaper, and cracks againsy tiny bony ankle, or chubby leg. I buried all remembered images of welts below nappy lines, but they are all back.
I remember discussions about health visitors not seeing them. And parental relief.
I don't have words.
I distinctly remember the shape of baby tears at the dinner table. And my being allowed to comfort them.
I think I speak for all of us when I say, Fuck You.