I was fortunate, very fortunate, in my deployment that we didn't have anyone killed. A few got injured, but nobody died.
Then in the eight years since we've been back a half dozen guys I served with took their own lives.
Veterans can take their own life for the same reasons civilians do.
And there's no answer.
I wish I knew them better. I wish they felt like they could reach out to me. I wish we spent more time discussing our feelings and issues instead of talking about chicks, or sports, or movies.
It makes you want to stay away, even though you know you should reconnect.
And I feel bad.
It's easy to diagnose the problem and visualize what you need to do to get better.
It's the doing it part that feels impossible.
You dont feel like you can do it, or that it's worth it bc you feel like maybe you don't deserve to feel any better.
And while you spend this memorial day mourning over those who died, you wonder why a part of you feels like it died too.
Just be aware that war hurts everyone, even long after the shooting stops. And the stench of hurt lingers in the air around us.
We breathe it in and try our best to not to choke on it, but some suffocate and don't make it.
War sucks.