I personally know more mothers than fathers who have no contact with their children. I’m not saying this is an accurate reflection of society. All I’m saying is that,in my personal experience, I’m aware it happens to mothers more.
I know that there are parents who don’t WANT to see their children but will claim that they can’t, citing parental alienation.
And that children might be accidentally harmed.
If domestic abuse was sufficiently understood, we would be able to identify:
1) Whether the relationship was abusive or whether this is a retrospective claim.
3) Why the contact has stopped/ isn’t happening
4) What is behind the picture being presented?
* Who is the primary victim?
* What is the reason behind the unwillingness to engage?
6) The various ways a victim can present.
8) The ways in which an abuser is able to manipulate services.
9) Differentiating between abuse that is reciprocal, that is coercive and controlling, emotionally abusive etc
“ They’re both as bad as the other.”
“ It’s a case of He said:She said”
“ It’s 6 of one and half a dozen of the other”
Abusers DON’T want to be exposed for what they are and if they can’t present themselves as victims of their victim’s abuse, they will do what they can to muddy the waters so that it LOOKS reciprocal.