Thread by @Bill_the_Bear

@marykmac @prolifetory @BarStirer @alicetimmons @wisitwippl @ShappiKhorsandi I think you are approaching this at a theoretical but non-practical level, I'm at the practical, non-theoretical level.

I also think you are looking at it from a heavily biased view where no woman ever feels uncomfortable, and so you set the bar so high the effect is all ....

@marykmac @prolifetory @BarStirer @alicetimmons @wisitwippl @ShappiKhorsandi .... actions become wrong. The resolution to that paradox becomes, "well, we won't prosecute actions where everyone is cool, but identical actions where someone is upset (or decades later has a grudge and claims to be upset) they are unacceptable!" .... thats impractical....

@marykmac @prolifetory @BarStirer @alicetimmons @wisitwippl @ShappiKhorsandi .... a better approach is to recognise that a huge proportion, maybe half, of all interactions are to some degree awkward for someone, and thats fine. We're all adults. I didn't lose my shit when those women touched me, but if they had persisted I'd have increased my firmness ...

@marykmac @prolifetory @BarStirer @alicetimmons @wisitwippl @ShappiKhorsandi ... in refusing. Say 50% of actions are a bit awkward, 0.01% of those you have to say a polite "stop" and 1% of THOSE you have to say it firmly. Ones that end in something physical... 0.01% again? We're down in the 1 in a billion case here. Lets not use the 1 in 1billion to ....

@marykmac @prolifetory @BarStirer @alicetimmons @wisitwippl @ShappiKhorsandi .... define the standard for everything, otherwise we need to ban all human to human contact right now since we're assuming everything will lead to rape.

Just act normal, accept everyone is different, be firm if you feel truly uncomfortable, but give people the benefit of the...

@marykmac @prolifetory @BarStirer @alicetimmons @wisitwippl @ShappiKhorsandi ... doubt. Which means, there is NO reason to be getting hysterical about Boris. You should actually be slamming the woman in this case because there is overwhelming evidence of foul play here!

To your credit though you haven't accused me of being a "shit toxic man" like .....

@marykmac @prolifetory @BarStirer @alicetimmons @wisitwippl @ShappiKhorsandi ......other did simply for saying lets calm down and not redefine everything a man ever does as attempted rape if a woman says so no matter her motivation.

The crazy part is in terms of male behaviour I'd be in the top 0.01% but if you disagree with these people you ARE a rapist