As a bereaved parent & multiple trauma survivor & a psychiatrist of 30 years & a multiply
Everyone is in the same boat, having suffered unimaginable loss, so it really isn’t cool to create a hierarchy of suffering based on how old your child was when they died or their cause of death or how many children died or how many are still alive or
No one has a monopoly over other people’s grief.
Same thing with TRAUMA:
It is distasteful beyond measure to compare trauma severity among survivors or to decide for them how traumatic
Unlike a Monty Python skit, it is not cool to say to a trauma survivor, “Oh, were you ONLY raped once/by ONLY one perpetrator?! Let me tell you about MY experience...”
Do you see where this going?
That way, we could really find out whether the “fashionistas/CULTURAL APPROPRIATION” group ARE as #Autistic & proportionately affected
Maybe there ARE 2 different autisms.
But it’s a bit like trying to separate bereaved parents or trauma victims into 2 severity camps based on arbitrary criteria.
Anyway, how does one even define autistic “functioning?”
Those deemed “higher functioning” may not be dependent on ONE exhausted carer, but may have cleverly re-distributed their support needs in ways that
Or maybe they are stuck in a situation (relationship, job, school, unemployment) far below their capacity but it is the only way they can have a SEMBLANCE of “functioning” by society’s definition.
There is a perpetual, VERY FINE LINE between being a “highly functional” autistic and a “non-functional” or dead autistic.
It isn’t difficult to see how these could be a proportionately GREATER
Is it really a stretch now to start thinking that perhaps those “high-functioning” autistics could in fact be MORE disabled, relatively speaking, than those deemed “low functioning” by society’s #Ableist definitions?
It is also a major DISABILITY; on its own & especially up against the INACCESSIBILITY of an #Ableist society.
However, calling it an illness, or even a disorder, is highly questionable.
I am verbal but I have a profound communication disability
The more I hear from & about #NonVerbal autistics, the more I identify with them. That’s exactly how MY mind works.
On the other hand,
Who is really being ERASED here?
Who is really being GASLIT here?
Who is really being told that their lives, experience & constantly exhausted selves DON’T EXIST?!
We #AllAutistics are not the SAME but we ARE in the same CATEGORY - apart from the rest of society - just like bereaved parents or trauma survivors in their respective categories.
The only difference is
But purporting to feel “offended on THEIR behalf” is historically dangerous territory.
A mask of benevolence towards the least empowered
“We are all in this together; please don’t try to divide us!”
There are NOT “2 AUTISMS.”
Because no one should be comparing, gatekeeping & dividing us.
There’s enough money in organizations purporting to care about autism that if just a fraction were redirected to helping autistics
But, no, they like us marginalized.
And our infighting makes it even worse.
For those of you requesting a link to the original thread that led to this thread response, here it is: