At every critical step past the early life & career stage (then rewarded for just delivering)

when protecting loved ones from harm
or #leadership

listening to #BlackExcellence/Black women gave me the framework to understand & the tools to be effective.…
“Model minorities” chase impossible standards? Then let’s try to match of achievement level set by Black women

…who accomplish so much while mislabeled, hated, un-/underpaid, killed, losing their children to violence of others’ fear/anti-Blackness…
This is NOT the standard:
-keep your access/proximity to power via a politician
-stay in spotlight
-use your credentials (& frowns/soothing tone) to gaslight a nation that deaths occurring not a concern to you

known for a collection of Hermès scarves…& now >700K American deaths
Have left/turned down jobs to if same role

I post incessantly to reach other “WOC” offered this “choice” (to harm)

Not looking for trophy
If my own immigrant mother not among deaths people “write off”, would I have this insight & commitment?

Your “hard work” NOT enuf
Our mothers, as wise & dedicated as they are, as immigrants, canNOT tell us how to navigate America. They try their best without supports to teach us what they think will make us thrive. They think perfectionism they were taught will protect. It will not.…
The sisterhood of justice seekers in America is a place that requires INTERNAL work for us to both give & receive as “safe” to others in those healing spaces. First, lose others’ voices in your head, fake shaming standards, or #impostersyndrome.
Your #impostersyndrome is actually your awareness that if you speak & “break” some made up “rule” you will be treated like #drsusanmoore

Stop letting fear rule you

Accept reality:
That danger exists
is OUT of your “control”

Then navigate spaces like effective Black women do
We do NOT need to wear a horsehair shirt of shame. We CAN draw on own ethnic “pride” or strengths *while* being #antiracist & pro-justice. There *are* role models “in the old country” who empower marginalized.

BUT these women do have social status.…
That is the accomplishment of Black women & the debt we owe & what we need to learn

that most immigrant community women do not recognize while in a Lexus or on a Peloton believing “Lean In” myth

How to be effective when you do not (& never will) “belong”
For immigrant communities to value Black courage, labor, sacrifice
-broaden standards of “merit”
-lose self hating internalized imperialism/racism
-expel voices associated with that
-lean out of “model minority”
-reject fear
-trust self>system
Rise & lift

When Asian communities (that get “left out” of “URM” category/quotas)

expand definition of “merit”
past “perfect” scores

then can get into colleges based on a whole person colleges seek

then not need to file a lawsuit to dismantle affirmative action…
My own identity (“POC” & “Asian” & “minority”) misused in ways that harms Black & URM communities

is something I cannot & will not tolerate in silence

This dismantles the work of those who allowed our parents to get visas

Lacks integrity, selfish…
National assault on Civil Rights & #BLM activists

Multi-pronged w/💰
Make America great again
=pre-Civil Rights
-most Asians immigrated
-Black folx could sit next to white

Who is face/voice of this?
Children of Asian & Middle Eastern immigrants…
Was puzzled by bizarre tweet to professionally smear me as “same” as a first year yt male resident fired for sexual innuendo

I volunteer with refugees
AMA teaches “brand”

Who cares on tweet/follower #?
(It’s 230K btw on LinkedIn)

Ah. Middle East politics in America.
Reason I revisit: you will hear “POC” from many

You need to examine
Do NOT take at face value

Deep rooted tribal hierarchy/superiority beliefs
brought into America
now are face/voice of attack on Civil Rights

invoking “POC” appropriates work of Black women
*while* anti-#BLM?
Idea of counting # of tweets was so bizarre


This is a tactic that *does* work with most Asians obsessed with grades, scores, metrics

Attempting to insert/activate a self-hating voice Asians especially have

Meant to trigger this shame…
This is exactly the type of bullying & shaming that drives #suicide amongst #perfectionism-oriented physicians especially those of immigrant backgrounds

If your head a cacophony of others’ critique, so beaten down, cannot hear pain of Black Americans…
This is why self acceptance *in* America as a “WOC”

despite the many people “screaming” at you

what Black women model for us
is the antidote/shield

(Though my own dignified immigrant mother DID teach me this)

You develop a resistance to it like this scene

Faked messages sent directly to my phone too

Escalating attempts to shame, bully, faked “gossip”
create fear, isolation, lost trust in Muslims with whom I do activism

=classic tactics also used by psychologists paid to design torture & violate human rights, ethics
Pattern: low integrity
anti-#BLM crowd believes
“prestige”/“optics”>human life

Why this matters is
1-divide & conquer is classic imperialist tactic
2-these paid “#security” consultants design #surveillance #EdTech
3-those who die are our Black &/or immigrant mothers
I do pro bono refugee health cuz some family members have been refugees. I understand, is not “hard work” but random toss of dice

These scenes of #Afghanistan brought back family stories of Partition, Daddy’s brother killed when neighborhood bombed in an India-Pakistan war…
My #resist: do NOT accept the “vs” to get “POC” to fight

Black success is NOT “taken from” me nor “threat”

Nor do I begrudge Indians for wars/violence that killed family members - we are all still pawns in geopolitical power games

Centering Black women NOT divisive
is justice
As long as *my* “WOC” or “Muslim” identity cynically used to harm, you definitely will hear my voice, vying for a place in the attention economy. Pakistani women are not stopped by snarks, faked tweets/messages, even bullets. Am learning from Black women how to survive & thrive.
“Family separation” or “orphaned” hits me hard

As a child got put on plane to safety while my parents stayed behind in a war zone with risk of chemical attack

With an American passport, Daddy was not a “migrant” in Middle East but as “optics matter”
his “look”:of “slave labor”
From my earliest memory I knew I was under #surveillance, warned, if I said the wrong thing, I might never see my father again

I was bottom of racial hierarchy but American passport

I was a silent child to protect my father - my voice could get him imprisoned, tortured, killed
I understand my racial identity triggers disgust in some who perceive self superior - anger at a “slave race” not accepting “her place” or silenced

Parallels of Middle East & U.S.
Note: 1960s
Then loopholes

I’m an adult now
Live in the U.S. again
Civil Rights exist here
I keep returning to these issues because I am in a different race/social level in each country I have lived in.

It has been bizarre, yes, to slide up and down the racial/social hierarchy in different countries.

I got this the most in the Middle East. Less in U.S.
When I read @gradydoctor 🧵 on raising a Black son prepped to speak to police.

I realize Momma taught me how to navigate airports as a Muslim, South Asian child. As a child, my job was to manage others’ fear of me else my family, especially my father, might suffer consequences.
There is a difference in knowing you are there temporarily (us as“expats” family in Middle East)

& will return to a place you DO have citizenship rights.
Quietly accept, comply

Vs generation upon generation of #trauma of Black Americans

Latter harder on optimism/#mentalhealth
Everyone nurtures #mentalhealth differently

Mine is to reclaim the space where my stoic mother was falling, she had scarcity mindset on spending on her own bathroom #safety, despite gifting abundance #mindset to me.

Boy who called me “messy”? Yes, am wild, chaos & creativity
Now ending this rambling (broken in parts) 🧵
Thanks for reading if you did

🧵s help me
see in a new light
generate options
create new solutions
are drafts for📕 am writing with a #phenomenalwoman professor at MIT on women’s voices

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More from @usnehal

11 Dec
Those of us with immigrant backgrounds have NO idea what debt we owe these women for risking their lives so some of us can shop at Whole Foods with other suburban moms, then drive a Lexus home to ride on a Peloton, & think only our own hard work created this access to success.
Those of us who are Muslim have a partial experience of what it is like to be made the face of threat and danger and vilified.

…But “the West “still wants to “save” Muslim women… make us a token or mascot of saviorism & evidence of being a shining city on the hill.
In comparison, the black woman doesn’t have that opportunity to be paraded around as the most recent woman “saved” & celebrated - the tropes are universally harmful & exploitative/pejorative vs Black women in society/media + centuries of economic barriers/being exploited.
Read 47 tweets
11 Dec
When I see this, and think of how a Muslim woman was denied a soda can given other passengers on the flight, out of fear of her look & belief she would harm people…

then look at this & school shootings

the double standards are SO clear.

These ppl likely were violent before
Is a question of who is given a pass?

what kind of violence is “acceptable” to American society?

towards whom violence is “acceptable”?

We already know who is dangerous. It’s just that “domestic” violence (vs women) is “acceptable” in American society…
The same is true about maternal mortality

Judging by outcomes, compared to peer nations, we’re a nation where women’s lives are not valued

This is indirect societal violence vs women

Still surprised Americans get violent vs flight (female) attendants?…
Read 4 tweets
11 Dec
"defendants…willfully destructed the evidence by deleting the webpages and social media accounts," Hanna wrote. "Plaintiffs cannot continue to be blindsided by the defendants by having to search for what evidence is being destroyed or altered”

LinkedIn is personal, not school’s
This is a really fascinating case as a lot of what I see happening in #MedTwitter (Twitter presence of the legal minefield that is #healthcare #MedEd, etc):

faculty, consultants, #hcw deleting content & accounts

My prior 🧵 on this & potential legal implications.
Read 11 tweets
11 Dec
Anybody who says “the #data don’t lie” either is ignorant or manipulative or both. The data are merely a tool that must be used responsibly & ethically to try to approximate “the truth” …some of which is unmeasurable (yet?). There are MANY #datascience methods & varying results
Everybody gets super excited about this new #AI #ML #machinelearning technique or that

You cannot build a RELIABLE house with low #quality bricks

First, look at the building blocks… meaning, how the #data fields are even defined & how the data are obtained

Who defined them?
I can’t tell you how glad I am that I have done coursework at both @MITSloan AND @StanfordGSB - Former immerses you in a ton of hands on analysis & options for analytic techniques useful in a #datascience job. Latter steps back to frame questions, assess missing data, biases.
Read 13 tweets
11 Dec
This 🧵 resonated. Trained in Houston, #asthma central, I was in this scenario SO many times.

I had the best #pediatric training at @TexasChildrens & @bcmhouston - you see it all.

Amazing that mere tweets can transmit humane, quality #MedEd teaching across the globe.
After moving to Boston I found myself surrounded by highly anxious doctors. We have an over abundance of resources and a healthier population. I saw people quick to overreact and manage (poorly) their own anxiety & need for control, with harmful aggressive overintervention.
I also do get being “Harvard” makes one a target. Juries are not going to understand “at the brink of death” and not intubating or the equivalent action in another scenario. “Jury of peers” is not present in a malpractice case. Good care can seem negligent, paradoxically.
Read 14 tweets
11 Dec
Doing a 🧵 of @EM_RESUS’s thread with screenshots.

We see a lot of screenshots of what is wrong in #SciComm.

What went right here? How can one doc transmit knowledge & confidence to another so well via a series of tweets?
First: what was the outcome of the #SciComm? Intention matters little as communitarian happens on the terms of the listener/reader. How was your #communication received/understood?

A doc:
recognized similar scenario
calmed team
avoided overaggression
achieved a similar result
The fact that the #MedEd teaching allowed an EQ & #leadership outcome (staying course despite others’ anxiety), not merely medical knowledge/journal club, is striking. How was this achieved? Let’s look at the thread. How do you transmit courage AND knowledge via tweets in a 🧵?
Read 15 tweets

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