Thread by @LBLibraryBook

So with all these #PrideMonth posts going on I'd thought I'd do a bit of a thread. So while I'm out there as much as I can be as a polya, gender fluid, pansexual, it's not me I'm worried about. It's my child. My 'son'

Now I was never really into the whole' gender your child' thing anyway when I was pregnant, I actually wrote a blog about it for @theparallelmag which is probably still floating in the ether somewhere

When he was born, before I'd had skin to skin, after an excruciatingly long back to back labour ending in an emergency c-section, they took him off to another room because they had a 'concern'.

His genitalia were not presenting as 'normal' for a boy. Apparently this was such a life threatening issue I wasn't allowed to hold my child until they'd figured out what gender he was.

After chromosome checks and surgery I was told he'd probably be glad he'd had in the future, he's 'gonna be proud of it someday' but the fact of the matter is my child was born #intersex

while this obviously doesn't bother me, and it hasn't even occurred to my mother; she still feels the need to add her ignorance to his raising. (She helps look after him when I'm at work) #singlemom

When the use of personal pronouns came up, she taught him 'she/her' 'he/him' and I added 'If you aren't sure, you can always ask or go with they/them' to which she added...

"OR IT
There's going to be lots of IT'S in your lifetime looking at how things are going!"

And I'm just silenced by her rudeness. Her lack of empathy.
One thing I promise as part of #Pride2018 and for the rest of my life, I will never be an intolerant parent. I will be supportive and loving and open. I want my child to be able to come to me with absolutely anything.

I want to be the parent I didn't have. So many of us don't have. #lgbtqiaparents

See?!?!