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THREAD // Masculinity, Tribes and Success

I'm almost halfway through reading Becoming a Barbarian

Read The Warrior Ethos and The Way of Men first since they flow nicely together
This is not a summary

Just some quotes and observations that have stood out so far

1) What does it mean to be masculine?

"Understanding masculinity means understanding that men can only reach their greatest potential through vital CONFLICT and COMPETITION with other men."
If your life isn't where you want it to be...

If you're underachieving...

- Are you avoiding conflict?
- Are you avoiding competition?

We're wired to avoid suffering, but it's through that suffering that we grow

You must "go through the fire" - OFTEN - to reach rewards
2) Men must build tribes

"These alliances bring a sense of order and direction to chaos and disorientation" and ".. are the root of our collective identity."

Society has reduced us to nothing more than data points focused on constant consumption
The solution is to build tribes of people with shared values, purpose and identity

You can take this very literally, but remember that you can pick and choose your online tribes.. and meet them in person (as I have with @MyLatinLife @NomadicHustler and others)
3) Who do you speak for?

The last point I'll share is about who you care about

We've been conditioned to worry about so many things outside our control

People on the other side of the world

Complete strangers

And it's silly
The best thing we can do is care about a small number of people (our tribe), deeply and sincerely

This will sound callous to some people, but it's realistic and genuine

Our capacity to care is limited (see Dunbar's # of 150), so by focusing on a few we can have a greater impact
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I've made several changes this month

- 2 new niches sites
- 3 new VAs
- Cutting daily emails down to 3
- Increase focused on paid group coaching
- Updated positioning

And more..

But I don't consider them changes

The point is to continuously EVOLVE over time
A lot of young people and new business owners get stagnant

You're not consciously evolving or growing

It's not going to happen every day

And a year is too long for a meaningful feedback loop

But I'm sure you can make progress every single week

Yes - EVERY week
Birthdays are only once a year

New Year's is only once a year

Summer is only once a year

We like to think about our lives during these events

But they don't happen often

Shorter feedback loops will force you to grow faster
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THREAD // Making Friends Is Easier Than You Think

Had a great time with @MyLatinLife @NomadicHustler and @_RobORourke at dinner last night

It's easy when you're in school

But a lot of people seem to have trouble making new friends as they get older
The school environment is conducive to friendship because you spend so much time together

You share classes, activities and meals together so it's easy to find your tribe

Because you're younger, your standards are also low

You haven't refined who you are and what you want
As you get older and finish school, you're not really forced to be anywhere except work (if you work in an office)

A lot of people struggle with making new friends because they don't SEEK OUT additional activities that put them in environments where they can make friends
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DD's Principles For Freedom, Fulfillment and Fuck You Money: #6-10

6. I prioritize establishing and enhancing meaningful personal relationships

- I always have time for family or a true friend

- I believe the best way to build your network is by helping other people succeed
But… I don’t try to help people who don’t WANT to be helped

7. I strive for simplicity

Would eliminating a system or saying “No” save time, energy, or money?

I believe that less is more and always seek to do more of less
8. I focus all my energy within my circle of influence

I don't concern myself or worry about things over which I have no control

9. I take 100% responsibility

- I recognize that problems are gifts that inspire me to action
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#Thread of responses from women in aerodynamics to the question, 'what would you like to see in order for women's career progression in your field to be sustained and better supported?'

Responses incl. career flexibility, mentoring and more women in leadership roles #WomeninSTEM
1. "I think young female engineers need to see more female role models and mentors in my field. Having a visible example of someone that looks like you and is succeeding in their field is important. Having an opportunity to meet with a mentor like that can be very powerful."
2. "I would like to see that any career promotion is based on own merits and value added to the company or the society independently of the gender. I want that women are measured with the same rules as men and are given equal opportunities."
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For some of us, too, it /IS/ all men, or has BECOME all men. Saying “Not All Men,” then, is telling us our experience isn’t real, which— fun fact— makes you one of those men.

Instead — 👏🏼 ACTIONABLE ADVICE AHEAD 👏🏼 (thread)
Apologize for your gender (leave the part where you blame society for how you’re socialized until later— she may even bring it up herself! We know!), thereby acknowledging & validating her experience, and ask yourself or even her (!) How can I make THIS experience better?

E.g.
Hang on, I have to get a beer.

And dinner— it’s not /just/ bc of this thread! 🤣
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Some of you may have noticed that I'm sporting a new tag in my screen name. It's not just a fad though, allow me to explain in this lil ol' #thread:
1/ As you (should) know, january 3rd marks the actual birthday of #Bitcoin, as it was the day that Satoshi mined the first blocks and hence set the Bitcoin story into motion. Upcoming jan 3rd will be the 10th anniversary and this would be an obvious time for celebrations.
2/ @TraceMayer took the initiative of a call-to-arms for all HODLers-of-last-resort, to join him and quite a few other prominent bitcoiners like @giacomozucco, @theonevortex and @CaitlinLong_, just to name some, and also sport the same tag in their screen name.
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Men Are Scum - Story #Thread
Battery full! I unplugged my phone then sat on the edge of the bed as I scrolled through notifications from different social media platforms, some needed to be replied immediately but no, I just wasn't in the mood to reply them yet. I was still going through the notifications
then saw a tweet from one of my feminist idols, the tweet read thus:

"I'm about to do a thread, another experience...*sighs* men are just scum"
I wasted no time diving into her twitter timeline, I followed the thread with rapt attention and retweeted, it was indeed a
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ಸಿಂಧೂ ಸರಸ್ವತಿ ಸಂಸ್ಕೃತಿಯ ನಗರಗಳಲ್ಲಿ, ಮತ್ತು ಮಧ್ಯಪೂರ್ವ ದೇಶಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ನಡೆದ ಉತ್ಖನನ ಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ದೊರೆತ ಆಧಾರಗಳಿಂದ ೪೦೦೦ ವರ್ಷಗಳ ಹಿಂದೆಯೇ ಈ ಎರಡೂ ಭಾಗಗಳ ನಡುವೆ ವ್ಯಾಪಾರ ವ್ಯವಹಾರಗಳಿದ್ದದ್ದು ತಿಳಿದು ಬಂದಿದೆ.

#ಸರಣಿ #thread #trade in #AmaruShataka #ಪಯಣಿಗನನಲ್ಲೆ #ಅಮರುಕ #Amaruka
ಇದೇ ರೀತಿ, ಸುಮಾರು ೧೮೦೦ ವರ್ಷಗಳ ಹಿಂದಿನ ಒಂದು ಗ್ರೀಕ್ ನಾಟಕದದಲ್ಲೇ ಕನ್ನಡ ಅಥವಾ ಕನ್ನಡದಂತಹ ಭಾಷೆಯ ಕೆಲವು ಪದಗಳು ಕಂಡು ಬಂದಿರುವುದನ್ನು ನೋಡಿ, ವಿದ್ವಾಂಸರು ಭಾರತದ ಪಶ್ಚಿಮ ಕರಾವಳಿಗೂ, ಗ್ರೀಸ್, ರೋಮ್ ಮೊದಲಾದ ರಾಷ್ಟ್ರಗಳ ನಡುವೆಯೂ ವ್ಯಾಪಾರ ಸಂಬಂಧಗಳು ಇದ್ದಿರಬೇಕೆಂದು ಊಹಿಸಿದ್ದಾರೆ.

#ಸರಣಿ #thread #trade in #AmaruShataka
ಸಿಂಧೂ ನಾಗರಿಕತೆಯ ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ ವ್ಯಾಪಾರದ ಕುರುಹುಗಳನ್ನು ಸಾಹಿತ್ಯದ ಆಕಾರಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಹುಡುಕಲಾಗಲಾರದಾದರೂ, ಸುಮಾರು ೨೩೦೦ ವರ್ಷಗಳ ಹಿಂದಿನ ಕೌಟಿಲ್ಯನ ಅರ್ಥಶಾಸ್ತ್ರದಲ್ಲಿವ್ಯಾಪಾರಗಳು, ಸುಂಕ, ಊರಿನಲ್ಲಿ ಎಂತಹ ಸ್ಥಳದಲ್ಲಿ ಮಾರುಕಟ್ಟೆ ಇರಬೇಕು ಮೊದಲಾದ ವಿಷಯಗಳ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಪ್ರಸ್ತಾಪವಿದೆ.
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THREAD. *YES* The current system is a direct response from the 9/11 Commission which reprimanded the IC (and specifically the FBI and CIA) for not playing nicely together in the sandbox. They wanted a system where intel could be shared quickly and easily among the IC.
2. One of the results of this was a system called "DIVS," which stands for Data Integration and Visualization System, which brings together government info into one database. This includes the *select* 702 data (see my previous thread) that is shared from NSA with the FBI.
3. As reference, the previous system used by the FBI was called ACS (which I think stood for Automated Case System), which was SO FLINTSTONES. It only contained FBI info, and did not even cross-reference info between the criminal and intel side of the FBI.
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