A lot of you know I’m a fierce ally to my LGBTQ friends & community.
I’ve been offline today because I had both a heartbreaking and life altering experience I want to share about someone near & dear to me who came out today.
Today, I received a frantic call from a family member from out of town who told me one of his best friends who lives in my town had been kicked out of his house. “What? Why?” I asked. “He came out to his mom. She kicked him out, he has no where to go…”
“…He doesn’t know what he’s going to do. It was really bad. She wants nothing to do with him ever again…”
“Tell him to call me,” I said. “Tell him to come over here. He can stay as long as he needs to.”
I’ve known “Jack” was gay for a few years. I knew he didn’t share this with his mom. He’s told me a few reasons why over the past few years. I’ve continued to tell him I was here for him, no matter what.
Jack just graduated from HS & turned 18, so he’s an adult now.
I’ve spent the better part of today telling Jack what a brave man he is for coming out and telling his truth. I’ve spent today getting him moved into my home and providing a place for him to live until he gets on his feet and figures things out.
Jack is a great kid. He has a job and aspirations of college. He wants to be an architect.
My heart is breaking for him because he was rejected by someone who’s supposed to support him & love him unconditionally in this world. His own mother failed him.
I will never understand how fear, intolerance & someone who is born different than what one believes is a “choice” is a factor for a condition of love.
I can’t comprehend this.
…I’ve always wondered what my friend would’ve done w/his life if he was still in this world.
My point in telling this story is that not everyone has the support to come out— financial, emotional or otherwise. To those who haven’t come out: it’s ok.
Declaring your truth—this is your story to tell, in your own time, if ever.
Know you have allies.
Please know that there’s so many of us who are allies and friends of mine (here on twitter and in online communities) who have gone through experiences you’re going through. Above all else, please— reach out if it gets to be too much.
I AM HERE. HMU.