Thread by @dayus4heaven

#BreakingBarriers starts 8pm Topic: Handling Rejection

Rejection is one of the most unavoidable and painful aspects of being human.

Most of our failures are nothing more than a form of rejection and knowing how to deal with rejection will help you lessen pain and bounce back to your normal emotional state. #BreakingBarriers

Whether you were turned down for a date, dumped by someone you thought loved you, or hurt in some way by your long-term partner, the pain of rejection is undeniable. In fact, a 2013 study found that the brain responds similarly to physical pain as it does to social rejection.

Ever notice how being turned down stops some people from trying again, while others bounce back from rejection stronger than before? #BreakingBarriers @bellajohn005 @Antom_dapper @Mentor_Grace @mpbeads_fabrics

Everyone experiences the sting of rejection, but mentally strong people use that pain to grow stronger and become better.

Whether you were excluded from a social engagement, or you were passed up for a promotion, rejection hurts. #BreakingBarriers

The way you choose to respond to rejection, however, could determine the entire course of your future. #BreakingBarriers @bofiasdiaries @PhilipObin

Before you seek to change your attitude toward failure and rejection, it's probably best simply to allow yourself to feel the full intensity of the emotions that follow in the wake of major disappointment. #BreakingBarriers

For before you can alter these negative feelings (whether they be embarrassment, humiliation, panic, anger, depression, or despair), you first need to get in touch with them-- #BreakingBarriers @iamkingsmithA @LanreAgboola1 @lanrelewis

As the initial step in accurately linking the emotion you've experienced to the underlying beliefs requiring modification. You can't really revise your thinking about something till you're able to grasp just what your emotional reaction was to it-- #BreakingBarriers

and what exaggerated, or otherwise irrational, thoughts engendered these emotions in the first place. #BreakingBarriers

A person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it.” ~Jean de La Fontaine

I am convinced of one thing: People come into our lives as mirrors of who we are. #BreakingBarriers

If we don’t recognize our worth, causing us to seek validation and approval from others, the world mirrors that, and we meet people who don’t see our worth either.

#BreakingBarriers @FireOFola @Mosopemi

Rejection seemed like death to me. It was. It was the death of my old self and the birth of a new era of new choices, thoughts, and beliefs about my own self-worth.
#BreakingBarriers @AishaYesufu @Ibilola_Amao @julietkego

Few helping tips:

1. They Acknowledge Their Emotions

Rather than suppress, ignore, or deny the pain, mentally strong people acknowledge their emotions. They admit when they're embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged. #BreakingBarriers

They have confidence in their ability to deal with uncomfortable emotions head-on, which is essential to coping with their discomfort in a healthy manner.

Whether you've been stood up by a date or turned down for a promotion, rejection stings. #BreakingBarriers

Trying to minimize the pain by convincing yourself--or someone else--it was "no big deal" will only prolong your pain. The best way to deal with uncomfortable emotions is to face them head-on.

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2. They View Rejection as Evidence They're Pushing the Limits

Mentally strong people know that rejection serves as proof that they're living life to the fullest. #BreakingBarriers

They expect to be rejected sometimes, and they're not afraid to go for it, even when they suspect it may be a long shot.

If you never get rejected, you may be living too far inside your comfort zone. #BreakingBarriers

You can't be sure you're pushing yourself to your limits until you get turned down every now and then. When you get rejected for a project, passed up for a job, or turned down by a friend, you'll know you're putting yourself out there. #BreakingBarriers

3. Treat yourself with Compassion

Rather than think, "You're so stupid for thinking you could do that," mentally strong people treat themselves with compassion. They respond to negative self-talk with a kinder, more affirming message.

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Whether you got dumped by your long-term love or blindsided by a recent firing, beating yourself up will only keep you down.Speak to yourself like a trusted friend.Drown out your harsh inner critic by repeating helpful mantras that will keep you mentally strong. #BreakingBarriers

4. Refuse to let rejection define you:

Mentally strong people don't make sweeping generalizations when they're rejected. If one company turns them down for a job, they don't declare themselves incompetent. #BreakingBarriers

Or, if you get rejected by a single love interest, don't conclude you’re unlovable. keep rejection in proper perspective.

One person's opinion, or one single incident, should never define who you are. @Mosopemi @MomentsWithBren @bofiasdiaries #BreakingBarriers

Don't let your self-worth depend upon other people's opinions of you. Just because someone else thinks something about you, doesn't mean it's true.

#BreakingBarriers @FemiJACOBS @SamAkinlotan @Amakamedia @vickyodesola

5. Learn from Rejection

Mentally strong people ask themselves, "What did I gain from this?" so they can learn from rejection. Rather than simply tolerate the pain, they turn it into an opportunity for self-growth. #BreakingBarriers @Ibilola_Amao

With each rejection, grow stronger and become better.

Whether you learn about areas in your life that need improvement, or you simply recognize that being turned down isn't awful as you imagined, rejection can be a good teacher. #BreakingBarriers @AishaYesufu @TerryannScott

Use rejection as an opportunity to move forward with more wisdom.
One of the hardest areas to be rejected is romantic love. #BreakingBarriers

The suffering that comes with this type of rejection is considerably harder than in most other types. Interestingly, many people tend to love and desire those who aren’t as passionate about them. Such is life. #BreakingBarriers

It seems like being rejected or merely fear of being rejected makes us more passionate about what we can’t have, making us suffer even more. Keep the balance in check. #BreakingBarriers

When you experience rejection in anyway please note that it’s not the end of life. Probably one way it things won’t work. #BreakingBarriers

Let rejection becomes a catalyst to do more in life. Winners never quit. Lead your life not by the influence of negative circumstances. #BreakingBarriers

If someone choose not to love you anymore it’s their choice don’t get stuck that you loose yourself to the relationship. #BreakingBarriers

The missing linking between rejection and feelings of hurt are your thoughts of keep ruminating over the experience. Let go and embrace a new beginning. Not saying it’s going to be easy but you have a choice to remain in the past or make the future happen to you #BreakingBarriers

When someone breaks up with you, don’t think you’re are not good enough or something wrong with you. Give up those trapped assumptions and let go the rejection. #BreakingBarriers

Not everyone you come across in life will be part of your future. See beyond now. #BreakingBarriers

Finally,

You’re worthy of love. 💗
You’re not a failure 👌
You’re not define by other people’s opinions.🙏
You’re a work in progress 👍
You don’t need anyone’s permission to succeed ✌️ #BreakingBarriers

Thank you