☆Listen more than speak
☆Are accidentally funny
☆Sees a person not people
☆Make others feel important
☆Listen with their ears & eyes
☆Ask questions that shows they listen to understand, not reply.
But that's incorrect.
You can have charisma whenever you decide to.
It's just about getting your mind right.
Let's go thru each one from the list....
Attention is a currency in the social dynamics world.
And when you pay it to someone *paying attention* you enhance your likability.
Let em talk homie.
Listen & you may learn a thing or 2.
BONUS: you exercise your focus muscle & awareness.
When you keep trying to be funny, you stop paying attention.
Be funny when you FEEL like it, not when your mind thinks it should.
I capitalized 'feel' bc humor comes thru intuition.
You'll reconnect with your intuition with social experience.
When you see people & not a person, you get:
-A phony like version of yourself
When you see a person, your message is more catered to their personality.
It's a human desire to feel important.
Socially intelligent people know that different things make different people feel important.
Whatever it is, utilize it.
This requires you pay attention with purpose.
You may be listening with your ears, but if your eyes are wandering, you seem like you're distracted.
-Listening with eyes = Strong eye contact.
A gentle gaze >> A wandering glaze
Ask questions relevant to the conversation, not your ego.
When they speak, you doze off.
Then you scramble to get a question that showed you were paying attention.
'Can they tell?'
Listen & stay present.
But if you want to beat out more of the competition, then you need to level up your soft skills.
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