Thread by @ArmaniTalks

Social Tip:

If you know most of the people at a social event & see someone standing by themself, then:

1. Introduce yourself.
2. Build rapport.
3. Introduce them to others.

That what you'd want others doing for you if you were in there position.

So do it & be a winner.

Socially intelligent people see what most are blind to.

'Any idea why?'

Because they either used to be awkward (added perspective).

Or they have the awareness to know its uncomfortable to not know anyone in an event...

Therefore, they think...

'Hm.. say I introduce myself to this fellow. Then I introduce this fellow to my squad. How much effort is that on my end? And what are the rewards?'

Well, let's think.

-How much effort is it?

Not much. You are just saying what's good & asking a few strategic questions.

So that part isn't too bad

For the introducing them to your friends part, once again not too bad.

You know your squad pretty well. So you may not even need to introduce the new fellow to EVERYONE in the squad.

Maybe introducing the new person to Matt will do the trick.

Since they are both engineers.

-What are the rewards?'

This person may be a possible social asset that can help you in your business, personal life or help you get in touch with someone.

'And if they aren't?'

Then you added to your social armor.

'Huh?'

Every time you break the ice, you become more confident in social situations for the future.

You condition the mind of a doer.

Winners break the ice.

So the small reps build up over time.

So ultimately, this is a win win situation for you.

Since you are the person who knows most of the people in the social event, you have pretty high social value.

Charismatic people know how to leverage their social value to create even more social value

The last kind of person you want to be in an interaction is the person who never leaves their circle.

That's what most people do.

'Why do they do it?'

Because they are followers.

They go where the heard goes.

And when they find that herd, they desperately cling onto it.

You don't grow that way though.

The next networking event you go to, check out the stats for yourself.

Roughly 1/10 people break free from their circle.

Most others spend some time looking for the circle & then just go on standby mode.

If you're socially awkward or been in socially awkward positions.

LEVERAGE IT.

Add it to your database.

Learn what to do and what NOT to do.

Social intelligence is a constant game of improving and surprising yourself.

The highly charismatic people you know weren't born like that.

They too were once that awkward guy standing in the corner.

Until a charismatic person came & said 'hey there, my name is ____'

Pass it forward champ.

Thats how the social ecosystem keeps thriving on.

For more practical social insights, check out the Armani Archives Social Dynamics Edition:

sellfy.com/p/kmditv/