That actually made me like him more, because I felt like he actually cared about my wellbeing, but we didn't talk much after.
And the rest, as they say, is history.
I consider it an act of God that some guy didn't take advantage of me when I was a kid. Many could have. Some tried and failed. It's amazing.
I think putting kids in risky situations is a red flag for abuse. Encouraging dysfunctional behavior, whether that be sexual activity, drinking, hanging out in bad areas, etc.. can be a way the abuser teaches the victim to accept not feeling safe as normal.
"" who feels unsafe will be desperate for protection
"" who's confused won't trust their gut
"" who's depressed won't value their dignity
"" who's insecure will be easy to manipulate
"" who doesn't know what's normal will accept the abnormal
They'll use different types of abuse … verbal, violent, sexual, spiritual, etc. to break down their victim's confidence, inhibitions, and self-worth, so they'll be easier to control and less likely to resist or report.