#MasculinityKE
They reported the rape to the school security but unless someone actually saw it happen, that was a dead case.
There are lots of men who want to speak up but guilt it holding them back.
This might receive a lot of criticism as an idea but why not?
Saying "I tapped that " or "she gives good head" is not an in-depth discussion on sex.
Are you mad?
Do you know Kenyan police or do you just read about them in the paper?
If she doesn't go to guys places "she is stuck up"
If she talks about being raped "she is exposing her personal issues or "trying to malign his name"
If she tells us about the rape right afterwards "why didn't she scream?"
If she fought back, "why didn't she fight harder or bite him?"
There's no winning for a woman who has been raped.
Where do we go from here now that we can all, at least personally admit, that we are part of the sexual harassment, assault and rape problem?
Do you hold your fellow men accountable? Why don't you do it? What would increase your chances of doing it?
You didn't accidentally spank her. You didn't accidentally make inappropriate comments. You didn't accidentally kiss her.
Then what? Where do you go from there?
I'm giving a way that I think would work and has worked for me and my friends- private conversations but that's just my opinion and no one owes you this.
Read through this. If you feel a little bothered reading this then you have been guilty of something similar. I feel tingly 😞😞😞😞
We need to stop sexually harassing women instead of asking women why they were sexually harassed.
Being a woman in this world is a full- time Olympic sport with no training. Jumping over sexual harassment here, running away from rapists there, swimming away from apologists on the other side. #MasculinityKE