Here's a really easy example:
Attacking & killing someone who's attacking YOU as you jog by their house is much less likely to get you in trouble - even though in both cases, someone is killed.
For example: some women make more money than men doing the same job. Their existence doesn't negate the overall wage gap.
- Sexist: reinforcing the existing gender-based power structure
- Racist: reinforcing the existing race-based power structure
It gets more difficult if person A is two levels of management up, or if they're the same level, but person B is a black man. INTERSECTIONALITY.
That's why I include it in the big 3.
Is it racist, or sexist? That's a more complex question.
Women and black people used to be property who had to put up with coercion (and much worse) with no recourse.
No. There's no relevant power structure that I'm atop that would make it bullying. That said -
Maybe things would be different if I were a jock, or an outsider. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯