And I think it has to do with that "forgiveness as smooth return to normalcy" bit.
The rest of us, however, *shouldn't* be "forgiving."
First off, we can't.
Our capabilities, as a society, are limited to holding them accountable, or not, and what we *say* about them.
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It's up to the rest of us to hold the perpetrators--and ourselves--accountable.