Thread by @HOLAAfrica

Someone slid onto the DMs and asked us how to navigate having sex as a plus sized queer woman. Cause it is our job to make sure ya'll get the info you need we hit the Google streets and found some stuff.

Here is an article on @BuzzFeedLGBT called Having Sex When Your Partner Is The Same Gender, But A Different Size.
buzzfeednews.com/article/lauren…
#Queer #PlusSize #BodyPositive

'I’m fat. Like, in a size 22 kind of way. Over the years, my relationship with my body — along with my weight and how I take care of myself — has had its ups and downs.'

'When I stopped feeling ashamed of my queerness, I thought I would stop feeling ashamed of my body at the same time.'

'In her new self-released comedy special, Rape Jokes, Cameron Esposito talks about coming out and realizing that being gay meant upending the whole way women are valued.'

'She concludes that it’s a confusing thing to manage, especially when you’re young and isolated in your queerness. And that’s true — but it’s also freeing.'

'When you are raised female, when you are cultured female, the thing that you are valued for, the thing that you are taught you are valued for is your fuckability. That’s it.'

'So there I was, a fresh baby gay, convinced that I’d evolved beyond hating my body just because the straight world told me to. But I was wrong.'

'If I could look and touch these women with fondness and attraction and lust, then I believed they could do the same with me.'

This article by Lauren Strapagiel is so insightful when it comes to navigating the love of your body as a woman and your love of other women's bodies whom you love and desire.
Here is the whole article:
buzzfeednews.com/article/lauren…

There was also some testimonials from @BlackLezLoveLab. What’s the Toughest Part of Dating as a Plus Sized Lesbian?
blacklesbianlovelab.com/whats-toughest…

Another great advicr column came from @afterellen which gave advice on to a smaller woman who wanted to be with a plus size love.
How to Date a Plus Size Lesbian afterellen.com/lifestyle/advi…

'She may have been shamed by thinner partners in the past and she may be gun-shy about giving another skinny girl a go. Be positive and genuine in your appreciation for her body, and take things slow while you build trust.'

So this is just another reminder that even though we are queer we still have a lot of to unlearn and unpack. Thank you so much for the person who slid into the DMs and asked for the advice.

If you have anything you think HOLAA! can research for you or answer for you don't be afraid to reach out. The lines are always open.

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