Thread by @CharlotteOU812

Thread
(For the clients)
WHEN A CLIENT DEVELOPS FEELINGS FOR AN ESCORT

Yes this happens.
Sometimes clients fall for their escort.
Not all the time mind you. Just sometimes.
Let’s have a serious chat.
Take a seat.

This has again just recently happened to a client of mine. And it makes me sad. Really sad. 😔 I liked this client, I liked our time together. He was nice and I enjoyed his company. But then he caught the feels. And that’s sad. He thinks he’s in love with me. But he’s not.

Imagine this.
You’ve been seeing an escort for a little while now. A few visits. You enjoy her company, she’s beautiful. You feel amazing when you’re with her, almost invincible. The sex of course is great, perhaps you’re trying new things you’ve never tried before.

Even better, she really listens when you talk. When you get back in touch with her a few weeks later she always remembers you, asks about your job and your life. She genuinely cares if you’re okay. You start to realise you feel better about yourself in her company.

You find yourself thinking about her a lot between bookings, wanting to text her often and just chat. You start to book her probably a bit more than your bank balance likes....but hey it’s hard to put a price on the way she makes you feel. Right?

Life which hasn’t been that good lately, starts to feel better. And hope begins to creep in. Perhaps, just perhaps you think to yourself...your escort might be feeling this happy too?
Perhaps her life is better for meeting you? Perhaps she thinks about you between bookings?

And down that slippery slope you begin to fall.

Perhaps this beautiful, accomplished woman could have feelings for you? Perhaps, just perhaps this could turn into something more than a business arrangement?

You both have so much in common right? It just seems to make sense.

And so you see her some more, all the time imagining what a life together could be like for you.
What it might be like to take this to “the next level”
To be this beautiful woman’s man.

You start to drop, subtle at first, hints about a possible future. Strangely she seems to block these advances, but you justify it to yourself. Perhaps she’s been hurt and over protective of herself. Perhaps she just doesn’t yet realise how much you want to care for her.

Over time you start to feel frustrated. She doesn’t seem to want to encourage too many questions about her life. She make jokes when you try to suggest dating for real. This woman is an enigma.
You feel confused. You book her some more.

But now paying her is starting to grate. You don’t want to, but you’re starting to resent spending all this money on her and not moving forward.
You start to feel offended when she tells you your time is up, the booking is over. Time for her to leave.
You wonder where she goes.

Sometimes in a booking now you can feel her pull away from you. She doesn’t seem as happy to see you anymore, but now it’s too late. Because now you feel hopelessly in love with her. But somehow, and you don’t know why, you feel just a little angry too

Sometimes you tell her. Sometimes you don’t. Sometimes your behaviour just becomes more and more negative. You play games about paying, or you start to cancel bookings at the last minute. There are a million different scenarios for the million different clients that you are.

But in the end. It’s always the same.
Always.
It ends. Usually (but not always) she ends it. She won’t see you anymore. She won’t take your calls. And you feel rejected.
You’re a nice guy. You could have made her happy. It could have been so beautiful.

Except.
You have a problem. And the problem lies within you.
You didn’t fall in love with a real person.
You fell in love with a fantasy.
You fell in love with the way your escort made you feel.
You fell in love with a dream
A dream that fades away in the morning light

You say you love and care for this escort
But think about it for a minute.
You don’t know her real name, her real age, where she lives, where she was born
You’ve never met her friends, never been in any way a part of her real life.
Her REAL life

An escorts job is to weave dreams and fantasies and to make you feel wonderful about yourself.
It’s a marvellous occupation.
It’s a job that leads you by the hand to wonderful places and then returns you to the real world.
Better, stronger, faster

But when you book an escort. It’s your journey
Not theirs.
Think about your super fit personal trainer.
Sure they work out with you, but it ain’t their work out.
It’s yours.
You leave your session and go home but at the end of the day your trainer does their own workout, for them

Being an escort is a wonderful job. But it’s just a job. And you, the client.
I care about my clients. I care a lot about my clients.
I like hearing about their lives, their jobs, their kids.
I like your stories, unlike your wife I’m not hearing it for the millionth time. 😂

The feelings that clients develop sometimes for their escort are really feelings for the EXPERIENCE and not the escort.

A good escort makes you feel wonderful, floating on cloud 9. But it’s your journey, your experience. And you journey this alone.

So how can you navigate this experience better? How can this wonderful time not end in tears? How can you avoid alienating a great escort with your feelings?

Firstly when you start getting the feels, remind yourself you don’t know the real person behind the mask.
Appreciate how good your escort is, that they make you feel THIS happy. Remember it’s just an experience for you. And you alone.

Sometimes it helps to tell an escort that your feelings are headed west, often an experienced escort can help you get back on track. The earlier the better.
Most times clients don’t tell us until it’s full blown and too late. We can’t help when you are so far gone

Take some time out. Perhaps take a leave of absence from seeing escorts or book someone new. A break can really help you get control of those feelings.
As I watch clients who have been booking escorts for many years, I see them use these techniques all the time.

But most importantly remember this. You are not the first, nor will you be the last client who catches the feels.
You’ll be okay. You’ll get over this. And you’ll live to ride another day.
Please don’t have resentment for the escort that you fell for, or be bitter or mean.

They honestly wish you nothing but the best. Truly

Everyone wishes they could live a fantasy...but no one, not even those of us who weave it, get to do that.