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#AskADominatrix: Why does it seem like so many Dommes on Twitter address submissive men like they're children or idiots or losers? Don't get me wrong - I love female dominance - but I'm a mature university educated man and want to be treated like one. Your thoughts?
There have been both pros and cons to the increased visibility of Femdoms on social media. Increased visibility means more access, so submissives and fetishists have more exposure than ever before to people and content that feeds their desires. ⬇⬇⬇
Femdoms can also follow each other and network and find mutual support to a greater degree than ever before, which is also a good thing. What starts to get tricky is when new-ish Dominants who have either 1) Never been trained/mentored by someone more experienced and/or
2) Don't really grasp the concept of consent, try to replicate the way they see other Femdoms addressing submissive men. That seems to be, by and large, a tone of mockery, humiliation and infantilization. And there IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT, provided that both parties...
...have consented to it. The issue is that when a person is tweeting or posting to social media, they are not talking to A SPECIFIC sub who enjoys that kind of play, they are usually addressing all their social media followers, not all of whom necessarily enjoy that kind of tone.
The unintended effect is that it sounds like all Dommes should speak to subs in a humiliating manner because that is somehow a characteristic of their Dominance. Again, totally fine for the people who feel that way. But the voices that don't get heard necessarily are those such..
...as yours, the many, many subs who exist out there who love submission but not humiliation. And it is a shame, because it is spreading a misconception that might keep many individuals from exploring power exchange that has nothing to do with humiliation but that might...
...potentially nourish them very much.
You don't have to endure unwanted humiliation, degradation, mocking, infantilization as a sub unless you explicitly consent to it. Serving a femdom does not NEED to equate to being treated like you are worthless, a worm, a bitch, etc.
You don't have to endure unwanted humiliation, degradation, mocking, infantilization as a sub unless you explicitly consent to it. Serving a femdom does not NEED to equate to being treated like you are worthless, a worm, a bitch, etc.
If it bothers you, stop following the accounts of those whose tone does not reflect the kind of dominance you desire to submit to. Give your submission to someone worthy of it.
