I am so frustrated with the misogyny that is getting perpetuated.
Reported to me by an immigrant guy - who is assimilating to norms - on what is common in a neurosurgery resident office:
Talking about girlfriends’ “b**bs”
....in front of female PAs and med students
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Reported to me by an immigrant guy - who is assimilating to norms - on what is common in a neurosurgery resident office:
Talking about girlfriends’ “b**bs”
....in front of female PAs and med students
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Describing women with multiple sexual partners as “human gutters”
U.S. professors, tell him the law has become “gynocentric”
that men need to be afraid and are falsely accused
@TIMESUPHC @choo_ek @janevandis @arghavan_salles
Why #HeforShe matters
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U.S. professors, tell him the law has become “gynocentric”
that men need to be afraid and are falsely accused
@TIMESUPHC @choo_ek @janevandis @arghavan_salles
Why #HeforShe matters
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Let’s even set aside outrage for a sec
How can you speak of women as “human gutters”, discuss your girlfriend’s “b**bs” at work in front of female med students and PAs
AND claim you are oppressed and need to be scared?
You *are still* openly engaging in sexual harassment
How can you speak of women as “human gutters”, discuss your girlfriend’s “b**bs” at work in front of female med students and PAs
AND claim you are oppressed and need to be scared?
You *are still* openly engaging in sexual harassment
This is the level of logic of those claiming there is a war on men/boys:
I will use gender-specific body shaming
Further, I will use my position of authority & rank to perpetuate sexism (+ homophobia)
But I am the victim here
These are people allowed to operate on brains
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I will use gender-specific body shaming
Further, I will use my position of authority & rank to perpetuate sexism (+ homophobia)
But I am the victim here
These are people allowed to operate on brains
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Immigrant men who actually MAY (or may not) start off less misogynist
Are taught what they must acclimate to in order to fit in & win approval in male dominated settings
Does not excuse any of it
However, I see a ramping up of misogyny in some immigrant men trying to fit in
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Are taught what they must acclimate to in order to fit in & win approval in male dominated settings
Does not excuse any of it
However, I see a ramping up of misogyny in some immigrant men trying to fit in
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Do you think the full professor with international full pay patients and lots of grants will be held accountable?
Or will the junior resident or research assistant with dark skin and an accent be reported and held accountable?
At a time “those” immigrants are “rapists”
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Or will the junior resident or research assistant with dark skin and an accent be reported and held accountable?
At a time “those” immigrants are “rapists”
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I am NOT excusing any of it
Accountability MUST start from the top
Disparity in who held accountable must end
Be honest of source of it - this is not foreign misogyny but homegrown and actively perpetuated.
bizjournals.com/bizwomen/news/…
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Accountability MUST start from the top
Disparity in who held accountable must end
Be honest of source of it - this is not foreign misogyny but homegrown and actively perpetuated.
bizjournals.com/bizwomen/news/…
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We know this history
Yes, to maintain “social order” of race superiority after the official end of slavery, dark skinned men were terrorized by, often tortured and killed
yes, after false reports
men’s rights are conflating that with current #MeToo
americanbar.org/groups/litigat…
Yes, to maintain “social order” of race superiority after the official end of slavery, dark skinned men were terrorized by, often tortured and killed
yes, after false reports
men’s rights are conflating that with current #MeToo
americanbar.org/groups/litigat…
This was never “feminism” - this was always racism and social control
“woman who in 1955 accused 14-year-old Emmett Till of sexually harassing her in a Mississippi store, leading to the black teen’s gruesome murder, fabricated her account of that day”
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theundefeated.com/features/being…
“woman who in 1955 accused 14-year-old Emmett Till of sexually harassing her in a Mississippi store, leading to the black teen’s gruesome murder, fabricated her account of that day”
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theundefeated.com/features/being…
In fact, it was always about “purity” - race purity, purity of women
“This contradicted statements she made during the slain teen’s trial where she testified that Till ‘grabbed her hand … clasped her waist, and … told her that he had been with white women before.’”
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“This contradicted statements she made during the slain teen’s trial where she testified that Till ‘grabbed her hand … clasped her waist, and … told her that he had been with white women before.’”
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So when a neurosurgeon in NYC describes women’s vaginas as “human gutters”
he is using the same “purity” concept (and language) of the KKK
Feminism and equity movements have rejected that kind of body shaming or shaming culture
Race itself is a social construct anyhow
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he is using the same “purity” concept (and language) of the KKK
Feminism and equity movements have rejected that kind of body shaming or shaming culture
Race itself is a social construct anyhow
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Rape is rape
Harassment is harassment
Color of skin of who does it does not matter
BUT it ends up mattering in accountability mechanisms based on accused and the victim
theintercept.com/2019/12/03/dea…
Harassment is harassment
Color of skin of who does it does not matter
BUT it ends up mattering in accountability mechanisms based on accused and the victim
theintercept.com/2019/12/03/dea…
Which women are the ones “protected” and valued, btw?
Not black and brown women.
Not even allowed to protect selves in most extreme cases of being bought by a man in sex trafficking case.
fox59.com/2019/08/07/cyn…
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Not black and brown women.
Not even allowed to protect selves in most extreme cases of being bought by a man in sex trafficking case.
fox59.com/2019/08/07/cyn…
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Do all women have equal access to rights to self defense in cases of domestic violence?
When I served in various healthcare leadership positions, I saw this trend of who believed - which women are able to exercise rights
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vox.com/2018/8/25/1777…
When I served in various healthcare leadership positions, I saw this trend of who believed - which women are able to exercise rights
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vox.com/2018/8/25/1777…
This doc served a mere two years for drugging and molesting a patient, one of many such instances, including pediatric patients, it was later found.
Notice race of victim vs perpetrator.
Does believing someone’s vagina is a “gutter” enable this?
nytimes.com/2017/01/23/nyr…
Notice race of victim vs perpetrator.
Does believing someone’s vagina is a “gutter” enable this?
nytimes.com/2017/01/23/nyr…
This is personal on MANY levels
Distrust of doctors affects MY ability to be trusted
I have been in leadership positions: frankly, I see WOC believed less and yes, dark skinned or immigrant men are scared
WOC leaders less believed/effective in roles
yes, own #MeToo
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Distrust of doctors affects MY ability to be trusted
I have been in leadership positions: frankly, I see WOC believed less and yes, dark skinned or immigrant men are scared
WOC leaders less believed/effective in roles
yes, own #MeToo
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These cultures are driven from the top. There simply is NOT accountability.
This is from my alma mater
bostonmagazine.com/news/2019/09/1…
And yes, it was in Boston an insurance exec, after a networking event, emailed me he’d never seen an *ss my color naked before
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This is from my alma mater
bostonmagazine.com/news/2019/09/1…
And yes, it was in Boston an insurance exec, after a networking event, emailed me he’d never seen an *ss my color naked before
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Unpacking that
That is a reference to
gender
AND
race
Not just reduced to a body part
But of a specific color
Like exotic trophy kill on a wall
Given Epstein ties to Boston, made me wonder later, was this someone who “placed orders” to select a woman? Could be...
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That is a reference to
gender
AND
race
Not just reduced to a body part
But of a specific color
Like exotic trophy kill on a wall
Given Epstein ties to Boston, made me wonder later, was this someone who “placed orders” to select a woman? Could be...
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2 other situations: references to “arranged marriage” in a c-suite role negotiation
misperception that I am an oppressed Muslim woman, used to being controlled
Do you think I will ever be taken seriously if I accept that role? How can I effectively run Medical Affairs?
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misperception that I am an oppressed Muslim woman, used to being controlled
Do you think I will ever be taken seriously if I accept that role? How can I effectively run Medical Affairs?
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So, yes, I turn down many roles men may take and face fewer issues.
I DON’T want to spend my time on this. I want to:
vaccinate kids
reduce maternal mortality
reduce burnout
improve interoperability
improve access
make care more patient-centered
improve quality
etc, etc
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I DON’T want to spend my time on this. I want to:
vaccinate kids
reduce maternal mortality
reduce burnout
improve interoperability
improve access
make care more patient-centered
improve quality
etc, etc
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Reason I get these offers is cuz - check my record - I have never filed any report on my own behalf
All of this is not specific enuf to be identifiable
I know I could set an example of reporting - I have for others
I set an example by being in leadership positions
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All of this is not specific enuf to be identifiable
I know I could set an example of reporting - I have for others
I set an example by being in leadership positions
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Is that really “success”, tho?
Why is it either/or?
Why should I obtain a title and handsome salary, often on the public dime, be treated in a way that makes me LESS effective?
Why are we STILL perpetuating this form of waste?
When we have SO many problems to solve?
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Why is it either/or?
Why should I obtain a title and handsome salary, often on the public dime, be treated in a way that makes me LESS effective?
Why are we STILL perpetuating this form of waste?
When we have SO many problems to solve?
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Frankly, the most hopeful, rewarding, inspiring experience I had in 2019, the most real conversations on #gender & #intersectionality for #equity, were during a recent trip to #Pakistan at my alma mater, @AKUGlobal invited by @ayesha_mian1 @amian74 @AdilHaiderMD @ELAMProgram
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What I heard in #Pakistan: “how do I run a business, as a (female) #entrepreneur in a developing country (=wide disparities)
What is that?
= women CREATING resources that allow BOTH doing right thing/equity AND profit - no margin, no mission
#Sustainability of mission
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What is that?
= women CREATING resources that allow BOTH doing right thing/equity AND profit - no margin, no mission
#Sustainability of mission
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discussion included #intersectionality
What do dads need? How can men be able to better support wives?
What does the elderly or sick worker need?
What does someone need, caring for a parent?
It takes a village
Everyone in the village needs support to support each other
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What do dads need? How can men be able to better support wives?
What does the elderly or sick worker need?
What does someone need, caring for a parent?
It takes a village
Everyone in the village needs support to support each other
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I post this a lot, will post it in this thread too
No, women are not the Giving Tree: self deplete to provide to others
What happens to this woman after her last feather plucked?
Women can and MUST create value
AND share in profits
To do that, own yourself (brand)
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No, women are not the Giving Tree: self deplete to provide to others
What happens to this woman after her last feather plucked?
Women can and MUST create value
AND share in profits
To do that, own yourself (brand)
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Epstein types have taken control of science and healthcare. And this is who scientists and administrators woo.
That is the invisible “top” of academia now, especially given cuts to public research dollars.
That culture filters down to every level.
wired.com/story/the-prob…
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That is the invisible “top” of academia now, especially given cuts to public research dollars.
That culture filters down to every level.
wired.com/story/the-prob…
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From @nytimes on who makes decisions on research priorities
Privatization itself is not necessarily right or wrong
What *is* wrong is that access to these donors & attending these events means tolerating pretty unsavory things
That sets culture
nytimes.com/2014/03/16/sci…
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Privatization itself is not necessarily right or wrong
What *is* wrong is that access to these donors & attending these events means tolerating pretty unsavory things
That sets culture
nytimes.com/2014/03/16/sci…
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I know more I move into business side of things, more I will get exposed to this
This exclusive invite-only healthcare conference with multiple invite-only surrounding events is a prime example
But what is the alternative?
If not at table, on menu
healthexec.com/topics/leaders…
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This exclusive invite-only healthcare conference with multiple invite-only surrounding events is a prime example
But what is the alternative?
If not at table, on menu
healthexec.com/topics/leaders…
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Or will I encounter more in business?
blogs.bmj.com/bmj/2019/10/18…
This is waste in healthcare. We cannot afford these distractions
It needs to stop
We MUST stop passing this on to new generations
Ending it requires accountability
#MedEd #MedTwitter #WomenInMedicine #PROWD
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blogs.bmj.com/bmj/2019/10/18…
This is waste in healthcare. We cannot afford these distractions
It needs to stop
We MUST stop passing this on to new generations
Ending it requires accountability
#MedEd #MedTwitter #WomenInMedicine #PROWD
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I want to be at the table, not on the menu - so have pivoted
I am sick and tired of a brand of feminism in the U.S. that is about self advancement or tribalism, even maintaining race/social order
We need inclusive, intersectional approaches
givingcompass.org/article/inters…
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I am sick and tired of a brand of feminism in the U.S. that is about self advancement or tribalism, even maintaining race/social order
We need inclusive, intersectional approaches
givingcompass.org/article/inters…
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Among those talking on/for women is Christina Sommers (her points used by hate groups per @splcenter)
claiming “fake news” on wage gap
Yes, it exists, even after accounting for other factors
@TIMESUPHC @TIMESUPNOW should reinforce not a “myth”
salon.com/2018/03/13/4-o…
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claiming “fake news” on wage gap
Yes, it exists, even after accounting for other factors
@TIMESUPHC @TIMESUPNOW should reinforce not a “myth”
salon.com/2018/03/13/4-o…
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This matters as seemingly small gaps compound over a lifetime
When I was staff or when in c-suite, saw how annual 2-3% increase of small gap led to wide differences over 5-10 years
Wealth generation = opportunities, options, risk tolerance
psmag.com/economics/the-…
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When I was staff or when in c-suite, saw how annual 2-3% increase of small gap led to wide differences over 5-10 years
Wealth generation = opportunities, options, risk tolerance
psmag.com/economics/the-…
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Instead, let’s have women, minorities, those with disabilities paid fairly
treated with respect
able to generate wealth
so as to inform and influence through philanthropy
no more Epstein types infiltrating academia and science
have right values
tbf.org/donors/donor-s…
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treated with respect
able to generate wealth
so as to inform and influence through philanthropy
no more Epstein types infiltrating academia and science
have right values
tbf.org/donors/donor-s…
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Like:
“Fatima al-Fihri ..Muslim woman ..founded first known university: the University of al-Qarawiyyin in Morocco. Guinness World Records ..the oldest existing and continually operating educational institution in world”
woman + wealth = outcomes
stylist.co.uk/visible-women/…
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“Fatima al-Fihri ..Muslim woman ..founded first known university: the University of al-Qarawiyyin in Morocco. Guinness World Records ..the oldest existing and continually operating educational institution in world”
woman + wealth = outcomes
stylist.co.uk/visible-women/…
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Or my own aunt @nusrat61 an outspoken, courageous, effective leader for women’s health in #Pakistan dealing w/ high maternal mortality, low literacy, few resources
Here speaking about uteruses and STDs
Yeah, in my fam you see random IUDs floating about
#womeninleadership
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Here speaking about uteruses and STDs
Yeah, in my fam you see random IUDs floating about
#womeninleadership
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Am so SO grateful med school @AKUGlobal was a safe for me as a med student in terms of never encountering ANY inappropriateness from faculty
(at least I did not)
where I had inspiring examples of #WomenInMedicine and #womeninleadership
Unlike
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(at least I did not)
where I had inspiring examples of #WomenInMedicine and #womeninleadership
Unlike
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There are many waves/versions of feminism in U.S., specific to U.S. history
America, American healthcare do better, be better than your past and your present
We have big, complex problems to work on and we need every single resource for solutions
history.com/topics/womens-…
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America, American healthcare do better, be better than your past and your present
We have big, complex problems to work on and we need every single resource for solutions
history.com/topics/womens-…
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