Thread by @ArmaniTalks

Loneliness comes down to connection.

Picture a computer & looking for a wifi signal.

You get a bunch of signals. But no password. Results? No internet.

Same with humans.

You can have a lot of humans around. But without connection, you won't feel understood

Loneliness ensues

'What is this connection that you speak of? I can't see it, so not sure it exists.'

You can't see wifi signals either. But you know it exists.

The invisible often matters more than the visible 👀👇

As humans, we have the tendency to give more importance to the visible than the invisible.

'Why?'

Because our senses can confirm it.

Our 5 senses include:

Hearing
Seeing
Smelling
Tasting
Touching

If 1 or more of the 5 senses check out, then we think it's all good.

But that line of thinking is flawed.

Your senses can only take you so far.

Its like trying to see Pluto with bifocal lens.

Not gonna work.

A big part in maturing is seeing PAST the senses.

That's where stuff like:

Connection
Intuition
Faith

Start kicking in

'I see what you're saying bro, but what does all this have to do with loneliness?'

It's to show, just because you have visible humans around you doesn't equate to the invisible connection being present.

That's why people who are surrounded by Tons of people may look popular to the senses.

But behind the scenes, they feel lonely.

Its because they lack connection

They're seeking the wrong things.

'Any idea why they are seeking all these people who are wrong for their life?'

Yes.

Its because they lack self awareness.

'And why is that?'

Because building self awareness is a stinging process.

Not meant for the feint of heart

The key to overcoming loneliness is first building self awarness.

When you feel lonely, that's your body giving you a sign to get to know yourself better.

Once you know yourself better, you'll know the right people you want in your life.

Socially intelligent people can have 100 best friends if they wanted to.

But they opt for 3-5 ish.

Why?

It's because they are self aware

Each human comes with an infinite level of chaos.

'Infinite?? Don't you think you're exaggerating?'

Nah. It's a POTENTIAL for infinite level of chaos.

The highest level super computer can't predict a humans next behavior to pure perfection.

Impossible.

This is why you don't want to invite all people into your life willy nilly.

You're inviting a bunch more baggage which is going to turn a bad problem worse.

Rather than appealing to your senses, appeal to your heart.

Invisible > Visible

Build self awareness.

Others won't be able to give you what you can't give yourself G.

If you feel like you're lacking connection with the external world..

Then that's code for you lacking connection with the internal world.

Don't chase the derivative.

Chase the source.

Self awareness just comes down to you knowing yourself better.

The good, the bad & the ugly.

Knowing where you have been & where you wanna go.

Knowing that everything happens for a reason.

So no need to judge yourself.

Instead, understand yourself.