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#Thread #Equity: It is difficult to shake off #privilege. Difficult. And it is even harder to explain it to those who enjoy it. 
I see so many men writing posts about sharing responsibilities at home, being participatory fathers, not dominating women etc.
This is great. So many are becoming "woke" and we must celebrate it. But here's the flip side and herein lies privilege.
As a man in #Africa, you can CHOOSE to be and do those things.
The day you get tired or don't feel like, you can also CHOOSE to not do those things & no one will come and beat you. Society won't notice.
Should a woman attempt to be anything other than what has been prescribed in society, it will collectively come against her.
She will pay a huge price to be free. She is the exception to the rule.
If you don't understand privilege and why there can be no equity without consequence, then the conversation has not begun.
The true hero is one who makes laws that he'll be subjected to; that will reduce his economic dominance or that will punish him if need be.
Not one who simply chooses when to abide by principles.
It's hard to understand the psychology of hurt and why society needs to apologise for decades of oppression, long after it has passed.
Like Germany and Nazism or Japan and Comfort Women. (Even when the current generation had nothing to do with the actions of its forebears.)
You can't just "move on" like parents do when they do terrible harm and follow up with "Have you eaten?", without apologising.
The rise of feminism despite the abuse of the idea by several groups and the rise of female adultery and cash based relationships...
...should tell you there is a collective anger that has only just begun to be unleashed on men and on families.
As primary caregivers, the children will simply be made in the ideological image of their mothers.
I pray for this nation. "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.”
I get really sorrowful during discussions about abuse because the data points to it happening overwhelmingly to women.
Even when statisticians give allowance for low level of reporting amongst men (many men are too ashamed to admit they have been abused)...
...the data still shows more women experience it and that there's less societal consequence for men.
So, if we go by the raw data and leave sentiment aside, Africa is not a gender equitable society.
In America, an illustration of another type of social injustice may be found in racial discrimination.
The data still shows an imbalance towards people of colour.
When groups respond to #BlackLivesMatter with phrases like #AllLivesMatter or #BlueLivesMatter, it sometimes comes across as insensitive.
Not because those other lives do not matter but because it's like when a friend comes to you crying in pain.
Instead of saying sorry, you start talking about your own pain too.
