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Friday Family Fun
One of the most devalued tools of tarbiya is the spiritual harnessing of family fun.
Children, in their relationships with others, are deeply affected by non-rational influences...
Friday Family Fun
One of the most devalued tools of tarbiya is the spiritual harnessing of family fun.
Children, in their relationships with others, are deeply affected by non-rational influences...
This makes them both vulnerable and impressionable, in heightened sensitivity to their caregivers, who have only to exert the most positive emotions they can conjure to create a loving, lasting bond, stiched in time with the thread of beautiful memories.
The main objective of social media is to use, even manipulate, the evocative to *influence* the ‘public customer’.
That’s why the *rational* hardly has a place in the digital jungle.
That’s why the *rational* hardly has a place in the digital jungle.
🚨 Stop giving smartphones to your kids! 🚨
A friend shared Sapien Labs' report that highlights a deeply concerning correlation between early access to smartphones (& tablets) to young children and the increased likelihood of suffering from mental disorders as adults. (1/5)
A friend shared Sapien Labs' report that highlights a deeply concerning correlation between early access to smartphones (& tablets) to young children and the increased likelihood of suffering from mental disorders as adults. (1/5)
The numbers are truly shocking:
(a) ~60-70% of women who were exposed to smartphones before the age of 10 experience mental health issues as adults
(b) ~45-50% of men who got exposed to smartphones before the age of 10 also face similar challenges later in life. (2/5)
(a) ~60-70% of women who were exposed to smartphones before the age of 10 experience mental health issues as adults
(b) ~45-50% of men who got exposed to smartphones before the age of 10 also face similar challenges later in life. (2/5)
I urge parents to resist the temptation of handing over a phone to kids always - while crying, or eating food etc.
Instead, encourage real-world interactions, outdoor activities & hobbies.
As parents, we have a responsibility to protect our children's mental health. (3/5)
Instead, encourage real-world interactions, outdoor activities & hobbies.
As parents, we have a responsibility to protect our children's mental health. (3/5)
For Mother's Day here in the United States, I want all you other moms of autistic kids to know that I see you, and that you are not alone.
Thread from:
squidalicious.com/2019/05/dear-o… #autism #Neurodiversity #parenting 1/
Thread from:
squidalicious.com/2019/05/dear-o… #autism #Neurodiversity #parenting 1/
I see your joys, and I see your sorrows.
I see you when you are having a tough day yet still manage to interact with your child with respect and kindness.
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I see you when you are having a tough day yet still manage to interact with your child with respect and kindness.
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I see you when you keep your voice calm during crises, because you know your autistic child is extra-sensitive to emotions and they need you to help them keep it together, or get it back together. 3/
#India
#Parenting
Few days ago I wrote about a difficult question faced by many parents - how to motivate kids to do long term things in life?
I am writing more details about this here. It is not a complete answer at all. I hope to get you to think and change your behaviour.
#Parenting
Few days ago I wrote about a difficult question faced by many parents - how to motivate kids to do long term things in life?
I am writing more details about this here. It is not a complete answer at all. I hope to get you to think and change your behaviour.
Motivation is grossly divided into 2 groups -
1. Push motivation - when you want to get away from your present conditions so you are motivated to undertake steps that will help you get out.
1. Push motivation - when you want to get away from your present conditions so you are motivated to undertake steps that will help you get out.
2. Pull motivation - when you are attracted to a great goal and desire to achieve that goal makes you do necessary things.
Why do we think punishing our kids will help them change? All we are doing is punishing kids for skills they don’t (yet) have - instead of teaching them the skills they were missing in the first place.
Let’s walk through this to illustrate the point …
Let’s walk through this to illustrate the point …
Imagine watching your child in the pool with a swim instructor who yells “Go to your room! Come out when you can swim better!”
We’d never return to that swim teacher. How could a child change with this method?
We want coaches and instructors to teach… not blame and punish.
We’d never return to that swim teacher. How could a child change with this method?
We want coaches and instructors to teach… not blame and punish.
With swimming and any other skill, we know that change takes time.
Well, here’s an idea: emotion regulation is a learned skill too.
Underneath kids’ “bad behavior” is a lack of emotion regulation SKILLS.
And our job as parents is to be an emotion regulation coach.
Well, here’s an idea: emotion regulation is a learned skill too.
Underneath kids’ “bad behavior” is a lack of emotion regulation SKILLS.
And our job as parents is to be an emotion regulation coach.
Today's Twitter threads (a Twitter thread).
Inside: Podcasting "Gig Work Is the Opposite of Steampunk"; and more!
Archived at: pluralistic.net/2023/03/19/lov…
#Pluralistic 1/
Inside: Podcasting "Gig Work Is the Opposite of Steampunk"; and more!
Archived at: pluralistic.net/2023/03/19/lov…
#Pluralistic 1/
Today (Mar 20), I'm doing a remote talk for the @Ostrom_Workshop's Beyond the Web Speaker Series
iu.zoom.us/meeting/regist…
On Weds (Mar 22), I'm doing a remote talk for the @IFTF's "Changing the Register" series:
iftf.zoom.us/webinar/regist… 2/
iu.zoom.us/meeting/regist…
On Weds (Mar 22), I'm doing a remote talk for the @IFTF's "Changing the Register" series:
iftf.zoom.us/webinar/regist… 2/
Podcasting "Gig Work Is the Opposite of Steampunk": Why today's Luddites should be smashing apps.
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Growing up is hard to do... #SoulBecomingNous #CompletionofReason #MindfromWithout (θύραθεν νοῦς) #AntecedentCauses
#SoulBecomingNous #irrationality #ReturntoReason #CompletionofReason #MindfromWithout (θύραθεν νοῦς)
"One who is truly humble does not humble himself shamefully and unworthily, groveling on his knees, throwing himself prone on the ground, wearing the clothing of those who are destitute, and covering himself with dust."—Origen #SoulBecomingNous
This is a threaded version of Chapter 22, titled,
“Healing Crisis:
of the book, *Psychology of Apocalypse:
*Ecopsychology, Activism, & the Prenatal Roots of Humanicide*
by Michael Adzema
READ BOOK… sillymickel.blogspot.com/2022/02/psycho… #psychology #birth #awareness #Boomers
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“Healing Crisis:
of the book, *Psychology of Apocalypse:
*Ecopsychology, Activism, & the Prenatal Roots of Humanicide*
by Michael Adzema
READ BOOK… sillymickel.blogspot.com/2022/02/psycho… #psychology #birth #awareness #Boomers
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Chapter 22 begins PART THREE
of *Psychology of Apocalypse*, titled:
“Healing Crisis & Regression in the Service of Humanity”
THREAD wp.me/p1n96g-3FZ #psychology #birth #awareness #Boomers #TheUnconscious #primal #Earth #Centaurs #parenting #prenatal #WoundedDeer
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of *Psychology of Apocalypse*, titled:
“Healing Crisis & Regression in the Service of Humanity”
THREAD wp.me/p1n96g-3FZ #psychology #birth #awareness #Boomers #TheUnconscious #primal #Earth #Centaurs #parenting #prenatal #WoundedDeer
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“[*Quotes/highlights:*] “We have this legacy where we think the opposite of insanity is sanity, usually conflated with ‘normality’ & conformity.” []
READ/DWL BOOK… drive.google.com/file/d/1gewWZG… #psychology #birth #awareness #Boomers #TheUnconscious #primal #Earth #Centaurs
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READ/DWL BOOK… drive.google.com/file/d/1gewWZG… #psychology #birth #awareness #Boomers #TheUnconscious #primal #Earth #Centaurs
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Thread: I seldom post about anything personal, but I am incandescent with rage. My 4.5-year-old at school is being bullied and called names for being dusky. #colourism is a serious problem in India- she doesn't want to go to school because she was told she is "dark & scary"
This is not the first time- 6 months ago we brought this to the teacher's attention. This is one of the most expensive, private, Montessori, alternative schools in Pune. We shared a copy of @Lupita_Nyongo's Sulwe and asked the teachers to address this issue.
@Lupita_Nyongo For those who haven't read #Sulwe, it's a beautiful story about colourism in an African nation. Very similar to #India where a darker skinned person is called names. School is no longer a psychological space envrionment for my toddler and from loving school she's refusing to go.
There’s a masculine and feminine way to parent. The goal is to have polarized, integrated parenting. Not emasculated fathers and masculinized mothers. twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
Each parent needs to do both masculine & feminine parenting, when appropriate.
(based on polyvagal theory)
A lot of mothers will get hardened by a de-polarized parenting system & fathers become passive & aloof. Resentment & disrespect will build. Intimacy will erode.
(based on polyvagal theory)
A lot of mothers will get hardened by a de-polarized parenting system & fathers become passive & aloof. Resentment & disrespect will build. Intimacy will erode.
You’re probably wondering:
How do you fix the overbearing wife, passive husband trap?
Here’s a tip👇🏽
How do you fix the overbearing wife, passive husband trap?
Here’s a tip👇🏽
Do ppl understand that ppl die from #MECFS?
Common cause is starvation as the stomach shuts down.
We're now seeing trend amongst #LongCovid patients; where many of those severely ill are seeing huge rapid weight loss. I'm begging parents to take action early if your child 1)
Common cause is starvation as the stomach shuts down.
We're now seeing trend amongst #LongCovid patients; where many of those severely ill are seeing huge rapid weight loss. I'm begging parents to take action early if your child 1)
Has the signs of #LongCovidKids.
Majority of ppl who become severe do not start out that way. Rather they steadily decline.
Common cause of decline is pushing through PEM.This is why we talk about the importance of early diagnosis. Promise you as a parent if your child becomes 2)
Majority of ppl who become severe do not start out that way. Rather they steadily decline.
Common cause of decline is pushing through PEM.This is why we talk about the importance of early diagnosis. Promise you as a parent if your child becomes 2)
Severely ill w LC, you'll need to know you've done everything to care for them from the start. There are many parents out there w sick children who
a) dont know its LC because they aren't educated about LC
b) are in denial.
Those children likely to become more sick as they 3)
a) dont know its LC because they aren't educated about LC
b) are in denial.
Those children likely to become more sick as they 3)
Children are the future, but putting pressure of tomorrow on their present, ruins their capability to be themselves.
@ProfSumathi
#Parenting #Children #Precious #TheBetterIndia
@ProfSumathi
#Parenting #Children #Precious #TheBetterIndia
Shouldn't we let the learning happen at a pace that occurs naturally to them and not makes it a competition every time?
Remember, life is not a RACE!
Remember, life is not a RACE!
One key emotional skill in parenting -
To stop yourself from giving logical explanations when your child is experiencing negative emotions like fear, anger, sadness, disgust, etc.
It comes from parental need to get child out of misery as soon as possible.
#Thread
To stop yourself from giving logical explanations when your child is experiencing negative emotions like fear, anger, sadness, disgust, etc.
It comes from parental need to get child out of misery as soon as possible.
#Thread
Out ability to use words with precise meaning and our ability to retrofit logic onto any event gives undesirable outcomes in parenting young kids (and human kids remain young for a loooong time).
When a cub is hurt and runs to mother with that wound, mammalian mother will take the cub close to her (cuddle), inspect the wound, lick the wound (cleaning and dressing) and lick the cub till it is soothed.
“I applied for adoption when I was 21. But Renee was handed over to me when I turned 24, " recalls actress #SushmitaSen, an independent adult.
@thesushmitasen
#Inspiration #SingleMother #Parenting #Motherhood #Adoption #Children #FatherDaughter
@thesushmitasen
#Inspiration #SingleMother #Parenting #Motherhood #Adoption #Children #FatherDaughter
She started the adoption process, yet the judge hesitated to grant her permission on the grounds of #marriage. Sushmita fostered her elder daughter Renee for 6 months before the final adoption hearing.
Upon being asked by the judge, if he worried about Sushmita’s marriage after adopting a child, her father replied.
"While no father would be okay with that, he was sure he never raised her to only be some worried.
"While no father would be okay with that, he was sure he never raised her to only be some worried.
#Parenting #Thread
Most people are aware of terrible effects of abusive parenting. Narcissistic and uncaring parents usually top the list of bad parenting models.
In clinical practice i see one more personality quality to be corrosive but almost unknown to people.
Most people are aware of terrible effects of abusive parenting. Narcissistic and uncaring parents usually top the list of bad parenting models.
In clinical practice i see one more personality quality to be corrosive but almost unknown to people.
This personality characteristic is high level of anxiety in one parent or both.
Parent's anxiety is often disguised as "care". And this is the real root of the problem.
Parent's anxiety is often disguised as "care". And this is the real root of the problem.
Anxious people in powerful position of a parent can become extremely controlling. Their worldview of 🌎 being a nasty place can percolate into child's worldview.
What other option does the child have?
What other option does the child have?
March 2008. I had one kid and a second was on its way. 11 years living in a city with no family and the majority of my friends were grad students who - even then - couldn't afford to stay in Vancouver after graduating. #TwitterRequiem 1/11
Twitter was a way to connect with new people with similar interests. Most of them geeky, many of them outgoing introverts. Tweet ups. For whatever reason, GenX seemed to really embrace this medium. 2/11
None of my friends had kids. But I found a parenting community here, local, across Canada, and worldwide. @alexishinde @tjrossingol @Nicole013 @buzzbishop @Stv @anndouglas 3/11
Chapter 6
of *Prodigal Human: The Descents of Man*
by Michael Adzema, is titled,
“The Sixth Descent—Mistrust:
READ THREAD or CLICK a link for free BOOK
READ BOOK… sillymickel.blogspot.com/2022/02/prodig… #birth #psychology #BasicMistrust #perinatal #BasicTrust #devolution #parenting
PH 6/1
of *Prodigal Human: The Descents of Man*
by Michael Adzema, is titled,
“The Sixth Descent—Mistrust:
READ THREAD or CLICK a link for free BOOK
READ BOOK… sillymickel.blogspot.com/2022/02/prodig… #birth #psychology #BasicMistrust #perinatal #BasicTrust #devolution #parenting
PH 6/1
Chapter 6 is subtitled,
“Mistrust of Nature, Mistrust of Divine Providence...
“Our Experience of Birth Determines Ever Afterward Our View of the World”
READ THREAD or CLICK a link for free BOOK
THREAD… wp.me/pwMlb-3in #birth #psychology #BasicMistrust #psyche
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“Mistrust of Nature, Mistrust of Divine Providence...
“Our Experience of Birth Determines Ever Afterward Our View of the World”
READ THREAD or CLICK a link for free BOOK
THREAD… wp.me/pwMlb-3in #birth #psychology #BasicMistrust #psyche
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“[*Quotes/Highlights:*] “The cold, hard fact is that our experience of our birth—that is, the amount of pain & discomfort we experience in the process of delivery added to those first crucial moments & hours...” []
READ BOOK… drive.google.com/file/d/1-dlEBH… #birth #psychology
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READ BOOK… drive.google.com/file/d/1-dlEBH… #birth #psychology
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Chapter 14
of *Psychology of Apocalypse: Ecopsychology, Activism, & the Prenatal Roots of Humanicide*
by Michael Adzema, is titled,
“Prenatal Suffocation Become Greed & Class War, PME 2:”
READ THREAD or CLICK a link for free BOOK
THREAD sillymickel.blogspot.com/2022/02/psycho… #womb
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of *Psychology of Apocalypse: Ecopsychology, Activism, & the Prenatal Roots of Humanicide*
by Michael Adzema, is titled,
“Prenatal Suffocation Become Greed & Class War, PME 2:”
READ THREAD or CLICK a link for free BOOK
THREAD sillymickel.blogspot.com/2022/02/psycho… #womb
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Chapter 14 is subtitled:
“Prenatal Matrix of Human Evil 2...
“Gasping, Suffocation, Drowning, Being “Cut Off” Become Greed, Oppression, Conformity...
““They’re Sucking the Very ‘Life Blood’ Out of Us!””
READ BOOK> wp.me/p1n96g-3FZ #psychology #prenatal #anthro
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“Prenatal Matrix of Human Evil 2...
“Gasping, Suffocation, Drowning, Being “Cut Off” Become Greed, Oppression, Conformity...
““They’re Sucking the Very ‘Life Blood’ Out of Us!””
READ BOOK> wp.me/p1n96g-3FZ #psychology #prenatal #anthro
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[Quotes/highlights:] “The timelessness of prenatal experience at this point—when not getting enough air—feels horrific, an unending nightmare. This part contributes to human ideas of places of forever, endless suffering, for example, hell.” []
drive.google.com/file/d/1gewWZG…
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drive.google.com/file/d/1gewWZG…
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Check out our today’s paper edition on thejakartapost.com/paper/todays-p…
Russian President Vladimir Putin may yet attend next week’s Group of 20 Leaders’ Summit – albeit virtually – President Jokowi suggested on Tuesday. #Putin #G20
Read more: thejakartapost.com/paper/2022/11/…
Read more: thejakartapost.com/paper/2022/11/…
Indonesia insisted on working to meet global goals through its own interpretations, refusing to make any rhetorical promises while still emphasizing its commitment to climate action. #COP27 #MarufAmin
Read more: thejakartapost.com/paper/2022/11/…
Read more: thejakartapost.com/paper/2022/11/…
Welcome to all our new followers, lovely to meet so many of you @FiLiA_charity conference. We handed out hundreds of leaflets, this is only made possible by donations from supporters - we receive no funding #edutwitter #WomenEd #RSE #Safeguarding #FILIA22 safeschoolsallianceuk.net/donate/
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Many of our members & supporters are lesbian or gay. They care passionately about improving things for the next generation, they have shared their stories “I spent my childhood & teenage years wishing I was a boy. I envied the boys their effortless power” safeschoolsallianceuk.net/our-stories/ou…
Chapter 11
of *Culture War, Class War 2022: Truth & Generations*
by Michael Adzema
is titled,
“Culture War Allegory:
“Reversing the Invasion of the Body Snatchers...to Follow or Not to Follow the Script”
THREAD… sillymickel.blogspot.com/2017/10/cultur… #FBR #psychology #history
CW22 11/1
of *Culture War, Class War 2022: Truth & Generations*
by Michael Adzema
is titled,
“Culture War Allegory:
“Reversing the Invasion of the Body Snatchers...to Follow or Not to Follow the Script”
THREAD… sillymickel.blogspot.com/2017/10/cultur… #FBR #psychology #history
CW22 11/1
“[*Chapter 11 text begins:*] The film, *Pleasantville*, is a postmodern sociological allegory or fable released in 1998.”
READ &/or dwl entire BOOK free AT SITE... wp.me/p1C4cs-2HP #Midterms #psychology #history #Fifties #Psychohistory #parenting #HumanNature
CW22 11/2
READ &/or dwl entire BOOK free AT SITE... wp.me/p1C4cs-2HP #Midterms #psychology #history #Fifties #Psychohistory #parenting #HumanNature
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“*Not So Pleasantville*
“It begins in then-current time against a backdrop of the usual violence, chaos, & turbulence that we are conditioned by the media to believe characterized the Nineties in America.”
READ/DWL BOOK... drive.google.com/file/d/1ySbhcO… #psychology #history
CW22 11/3
“It begins in then-current time against a backdrop of the usual violence, chaos, & turbulence that we are conditioned by the media to believe characterized the Nineties in America.”
READ/DWL BOOK... drive.google.com/file/d/1ySbhcO… #psychology #history
CW22 11/3
"Mommy, sometimes a part of me feels like it would be easier to have a different mommy. Not always and not me fully. Am I hurting you by saying this?" I have been preparing for 2 years to answer this question & I aced it! #parenting in #NEISVoid #LongCovid #motherhood🧵1/n
First, I lightened the mood my saying "believe me, I would like to be a different person as well, in a different body". He smiled immediately.
Next, I acknowledged that his thoughts were perfectly rational & had no malice at all. 2/n
Next, I acknowledged that his thoughts were perfectly rational & had no malice at all. 2/n
I went on to explain that I was not upset. He simply wants to go on playdates with friends without worrying about infecting mommy & making her more sick, or go eat out in restaurants or not be the only kid in class masking. Any kid would want that, any adult would too! 3/n
“Ch 11,” titled “Culture War Allegory:
“Reversing the Invasion of the Body Snatchers...to Follow or Not to Follow the Script”
Quotes/Highlights THREAD
From *Culture War Class War 2022: Truth & Generations*
by Michael Adzema
(pub. 10/2022)
sillymickel.blogspot.com/2017/10/cultur…
CW22Q 11/1
“Reversing the Invasion of the Body Snatchers...to Follow or Not to Follow the Script”
Quotes/Highlights THREAD
From *Culture War Class War 2022: Truth & Generations*
by Michael Adzema
(pub. 10/2022)
sillymickel.blogspot.com/2017/10/cultur…
CW22Q 11/1
Quotes/Highlights THREAD
From *Culture War Class War 2022:
*Truth & Generations*
by Michael Adzema
(available on website now & being published Oct 2022)
READ &/or dwnl entire BOOK free AT SITE...
READ BOOK… wp.me/p1C4cs-2HP #Midterms #psychology #history
CW22Q 11/2
From *Culture War Class War 2022:
*Truth & Generations*
by Michael Adzema
(available on website now & being published Oct 2022)
READ &/or dwnl entire BOOK free AT SITE...
READ BOOK… wp.me/p1C4cs-2HP #Midterms #psychology #history
CW22Q 11/2
[*Quotes/highlights:*] “…we are beginning to see a metaphor for psychological realities & that ‘following the script’ has a broader meaning for a choice that everyone must make in life in growing up,..”
THREAD sillymickel.blogspot.com/2017/10/cultur… #Midterms #psychology #history
CW22Q 11/3
THREAD sillymickel.blogspot.com/2017/10/cultur… #Midterms #psychology #history
CW22Q 11/3
My mother raised 3 kids- all 3 went to IIT, then IIM & doing well in their lives.
Based on my own childhood and journey of raising 2 little daughters, some insights on parenting.
Please retweet for wider reach. 🧵
Based on my own childhood and journey of raising 2 little daughters, some insights on parenting.
Please retweet for wider reach. 🧵
Tell them they can do anything.
Tell it so often that they start believing it. That belief will define their destiny
2/n
Tell it so often that they start believing it. That belief will define their destiny
2/n
Let them fall.
Let them jump and play and fall and get hurt. Don't jump in to pick them up. Only then will they learn to get up from a failure, dust themselves up and keep walking
3/n
Let them jump and play and fall and get hurt. Don't jump in to pick them up. Only then will they learn to get up from a failure, dust themselves up and keep walking
3/n
